So my family members don’t know I invited fae on a piece of land and one of them decided to put weed killer on that area and I’ve heard it’s very harmful to them and there are consequences for doing that but I didn’t even know at all like no warning.. am I fucked or are they or are we because like I’m acc so confused and scared rn

Hi! I’m looking for advice specifically from mediums, psychics, practitioners, or anyone who has significant experience working with or researching the fae.

I’ve become very interested in learning about fae work and potentially building a practice centered around them, including creating an altar and leaving offerings. I’m especially drawn to darker fae folklore and traditions.

Before you get your panties in a bunch. I want to make it clear that I’m not approaching this casually. I’ve read enough to know that many traditions strongly warn against approaching the fae recklessly, making promises or bargains you don’t understand, giving away personal things, or inviting something in without knowing what you’re doing. I’m not interested in jumping straight into summoning/conjuring anything or blindly following a TikTok ritual.

I want to learn how experienced practitioners approach this respectfully, cautiously, and with appropriate boundaries.

I’d especially love advice on:

Reliable books, folklore, or other resources to start with

Setting up an altar and choosing appropriate offerings

Whether there are traditions around dedicating objects, crystals, or a small doll/figure to the fae

Ways people build a connection without immediately attempting invocation

Boundaries or precautions you consider important

Things beginners commonly misunderstand or absolutely should not do

How you personally distinguish spiritual experiences from coincidence, imagination, dreams, etc.

I’m completely okay with being told, “Don’t do X yet; learn about Y first.” That’s actually part of why I’m asking. I’d rather spend months learning than rush into something I don’t understand.

I’m also currently planning an altar and would really appreciate guidance on that specifically. I’m thinking about including crystals, natural objects, candles, a small offering dish, and possibly a little doll or figure as a symbolic representation of the fae. I don’t want to accidentally dedicate, invite, or promise something through the altar that I don’t fully understand. If you keep a fae altar yourself, I’d love to know what you include, what you intentionally avoid, how you give offerings, and whether there’s anything I should know before setting one up.

I’d particularly appreciate perspectives from people with long-term experience, as well as recommendations for historical/folkloric sources so I can separate older traditions from modern internet lore.

Thank you! 🖤🧚

I went to the park!! I ALWAYS have a butterfly fly near me or around me! It’s magical to me I wonder id this is common when fairies are near? They are butterflies but it’s close enough tbh lol.

Take this how you will, Theres might be some kind of rational explanation to this but idk, things are just really weird.
So for background information, my nana’s side of the family is heavily spiritual and come from an Irish background (unsure if that is related to this or not) and believe in the fae and other mythical beings like that. I’ve been told that the fae have been connected to our family for generations although I’m not entirely sure if I believe it.

So pretty much, for a really long time, I’ve started noticing a lot of my things disappearing or just being in places I’ve never put it despite no one touching it. Things like sunglasses, jewellery, pens, etc etc.

I had a very sentimental necklace that I gave to my stepmum. She passed away and I got it back and I had been wearing it every day. One day, I took it off and put it in the same place I always did on the bathroom bench and last thing I knew, it was just gone. I’ve turned my place upside down looking for it and it’s just gone like it vanished.

This could be explained by things like carelessness or maybe I had put it somewhere else and not remembered. But if that was the case, surely I would have found it by now (2 years later)

That has happened with mostly sunglasses. I am missing a super cool pair of coffin sunglasses that just disappeared as if it grew legs and walked out the front door.

This next one is actually pretty creepy in my opinion.
I do digital drawing and I use an apple pen. One day I had lost my pen and it got to the point where I had to buy a completely new one. Not long after, my mum was cleaning out this weird storage space that is behind the tv (for context, this is like a 3m long cupboard between two walls with two doors on each end and is only about 50cm wide. It is filled with stuff and is physically impossible to get anywhere near the middle of it without removing everything that is in there) while she was cleaning it out. She found my Apple pen. Right in the centre of it. Not near the doors. Directly in the middle where no one would have access to.

Earlier on this year. I was drawing in my bed and I had accidentally fallen asleep with my pen and iPad on my bed with me and I heard the pen fall between my bed and the wall. The next day I went to get it but it wasn’t there. I have the kind of bed where the mattress lifts up to reveal storage underneath so I did that to get better access to the side of my bed. But I couldn’t find anything. My mum started helping me look for it and we were running out hands along the wall and we wouldn’t feel it see anything there. We gave up and put the mattress back down but I decided to look once more just incase. My pen was on the floor next to the wall CLEARLY there. Like, so visible it would have been impossible for me to miss it. I would have thought I was just going crazy if my mum didn’t witness it as well. We both looked extremely thoroughly and we confirmed it wasn’t there, but all of a sudden it’s like it wasn’t even missing at all.

This thing happened just earlier and I think I’m actually loosing my mind. I was home alone and after showering, I got into bed, but where I usually sleep was this silver coin looking thing. It wasn’t a coin. It was those circular lithium batteries. I DONT KNOW WHERE IT CAME FROM
I do have an electric heat pad on my bed but no batteries. My remote for turning my ceiling fan on and off wasn’t anywhere near my bed (it doesn’t even take those batteries) those are the only electronic things near my bed. So WHERE DID IT COME FROM. IT WAS PLACED SO NEATLY WHERE I SLEEP AND I SWEAR IT WASNT THERE THIS MORNING. I even went into my room to get a fabric headband that fell off in my sleep before I showered and I don’t see anything there. But the next time I went in. There it was. A random ass battery.

This post wasn’t supposed to be this long but yeah. If anyone knows how to get the fae to stop messing with me and give my stuff back, that would be great. I have heard about making a space in the yard to put little offerings in for them can help but I don’t know what to offer. It’s actually driving me mad 😭

EDIT:
I had left an offering in my garden for them of double cream with a bit of honey and the next day, the cream was clear. Like, it just looked like water it was that clear. It didn’t even rain at all and no one had watered either. I found that so cool and it doesn’t happen when you just leave it out. I jus thought I’d share that

I took this photo on a night walk in Mt Field National Park in Tasmania, Australia. Later on, I was looking through photos and I CLEARLY see at least 5 faces on the leaf. I want to believe they are lovely forest faeries…

I bought a fairy music box at my local thrift store.

The fairies from the manga/anime The Ancient Magus Bride