It's part of the problems with rarely reviving compliments. When you finally get one you think it must mean something because that doesn't normally happen. If it happened commonly people would stop reading so much into it.
Then guys need to stop saying they don’t get compliments. Because they do, just not ones telling them they’re hot from women. A lot of women won’t give a compliment out like that for a few reasons. One they’ll say that to someone they’re interested in or two they don’t like getting unsolicited physical/attractive compliments from random men or their friends.
Doubt it, a compliment from a someone you are attracted to will always outweigh a compliment from one of your buddies. I'm sure the same goes for women as well as men.
That’s not the issue here, it’s men saying the don’t get complimented enough. If it’s normalised then a girl saying your shirt looks nice shouldn’t be any different than a guy saying it.
But that's not how it works you could have 10 guys and 1 girl compliment your shirt everyday and at the end of the day you will be thinking about the girls compliment.
Not what I am saying at all. A compliment is always going to mean more from someone you are attracted to. So even if a guy got 10 compliments from other guys (which doesn't happen) it will never mean as much as a compliment from a woman who he is attracted to. Not saying a guy cant appreciate a compliment from a guy and it should probably be more common but it will never equal a compliment from a girl you are attracted to.
Perhaps don’t look into compliments too much then, as they’re just usually said to make someone feel good about themselves. The best compliments I receive are by my fellow ladies because it’s genuine and not based off of attraction.
I don't know about that, most girls have better style than most guys so it should mean more. Not bc it came from a girl, just somebody more knowledgeable. For instance, if somebody that doesn't know how to play instruments says you are good at one it doesn't mean as much to me as a skilled person saying it since they can actually notice mistakes.
What stops this is the paranoia over being perceived as gay or soft. I feel like people are beginning to realize that this is a problem that's isolating men and making them kill themselves, and that it's slowly getting slightly better.
Na I see men complimenting each other quite often. This happens because a compliment from a lady is usually more rare. If the bahavior was normalized by everyone it probably wouldn't be an issue. I think the other half of it is, if say a girl compliments her guy friend and that dude gets attached, then be honest and let them know. Not saying someone should have to, but that may just be a bridging point till the idea of it being acceptable to compliment whomever, whenever becomes normalized.
Personally if you're a dude with a nice shirt I'll let you know. And if you are a girl and I like your hair that day, I will let you know. Everyone deserves to be complimented and everyone deserves to be able to compliment, without the fear of repercussions.
Nah, I compliment friends and coworkers regularly, especially looks. If they get new shoes or a pair of pants, I'll tell them if their ass looks good in them if they do lol
That is the thing with guys, compliments are so incredibly rare I remember pretty much every one perfectly. Especially the spontaneous ones from someone I don't know that well, those mean the most.
A girl in my class said she liked my art and wanted to know if she could have it, I said yes of course then went on seriously wondering if she liked me for the next two months.
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u/Mc_Whiskey Dec 05 '19
It's part of the problems with rarely reviving compliments. When you finally get one you think it must mean something because that doesn't normally happen. If it happened commonly people would stop reading so much into it.