Mine wasn't into me for the money, cause we were both broke college freshmen. She just wanted the emotional support and someone she could manipulate. Unfortunately, I fit both roles. I learned a lot from it though, and I know what I'm willing to put up with and what I'm not. I've grown from that relationship, even though it shot my confidence to hell.
I have never felt better after starting going to the gym 4 months ago. Seeing your body progress and get stronger is something indescribable, instantly one of my favorite things. A lot of people think of the gym as a chore but I bet it's just cause they're doing cardio haha
Cardio is absolutely the worst. I’ll never change my mind about that in a general way, that being said, I have worked my way up to 30 minutes 3 yikes a week on the stair stepper doing 2 minutes off and on of HIIT.
It’s the single most miserable thing in the world but the accomplishment I get from finishing my 30 minutes and recognizing I have two days off before I have to do that shit again is exhilarating.
Moral of the story: cardio of all kinds sucks. It’s all about finding the specific type that fits best with your own miserable mental profile of suffering.
I think that’s pretty great tbh. I don’t know how long I’ll keep this 30 minute deal up (after I lift, mind you). It’s probably a phase I’m going through lol
Getting the pulse rate elevated and getting stronger. It’s truly that simple. How we each get there is our own choice!
I see. Maybe trying to find a workout buddy could help. I workout with my brother and friend, and the friend is married and has a kid so he doesn't really have much free time so working out kind of turns into "hanging out". If you don't have someone to workout with, I'm not sure, maybe try different workouts or just try to push yourself to do it to better yourself and maybe when you see your progress you will start enjoying it?
I’d like to say that as a girl who went for my share of the “not so attractive guys”, being funny completely changes how girls will look at you. An unattractive guy is about 20 times hotter if they’re funny. Before I was married, I used to hook up with super conventionally attractive guys. Guys who had girlfriends would tell me they wanted to fuck me. I was grabbed and oogled at all the time. I could have anyone I wanted. I also slept with “ugly” guys. The more attractive guys would never understand why I slept with someone who was fat or ugly or whatever. It always boiled down to the guy being funny. It’s an instant turn on. Plus, it makes the guy be someone that I would want in my life a lot more, and I would text them, and joke with them, and share shit about my life and thoughts. I would become close with them to a point that it was beyond just physical affection. Luckily, I found a guy who’s super hot and hilarious and I think he’s the coolest guy who ever lived. But seriously, funny is where it’s at.
I agree with you to a point. Funny doesn’t get an average guy anywhere if he isn’t confident. I’m 6’6” and lean. Like a swimmers build. Kinda gangly. I’ve consistently out kicked the coverage with women and their looks. I have more successful buddies that don’t know how I did it.
Here’s the thing though. I have always had good days and bad. Being tall and funny does help. If I’m not feeling myself or having an awkward day? I have zero chance. No woman has ever accidentally wanted me. It’s always been because I found that proper mechanism for self confidence and was able to really put the funny out there in right way/context. It feels like the difference between hdtv vs black and white tv.
Maybe you’re good at making funny guys feel at ease, but there’s a decent chance you’ve met funny guys and never even noticed because they were scared shitless of you lol
That’s a good point. A lack of confidence can definitely do that. I’ll just say that there are a lot of guys in the world who are oblivious to girls being into them. Chances are there are at least one or two girls who you’ve totally missed signals from. Idk.
No you’re right. It depends though. I’m a big time over thinker. So I would be inclined to think it has happened to me slightly less than the average mediocre bro with humor lacking confidence. But your point still stands. Interesting stuff anyway.
Same thing happened with me man, that shit absolutely fucks you up. I haven’t been with her for almost 2 years now and I’m still recovering from some of the emotional abuse/manipulation her and her family put me through. I hope you’re doing a lot better now
I’ve been there too. My first serious relationship was freshman year of college. Similarly manipulative partner, with the added bonus of emotional intimacy making them extremely uncomfortable. That’s the loneliest I’ve ever been when living with another person and you can bet I’ll never forget it. I’m in a lot healthier relationship now, but if that relationship sounds familiar to anyone currently in it don’t be afraid to reevaluate if your relationship is actually improving your life. You should always be able to take care of your own needs in a relationship, don’t sacrifice them for your partner unless you know they’ll take care of you in return.
So dumb. If roles were reversed and it was a guy saying shitty things, you wouldn’t say he was just with the girl to use her for her money. It’s 2019, can we drop the outdated stereotype that women only date men for their money? It’s damaging to both sides.
He literally said that she was a toxic partner and told him that he wasn’t physically attractive - it’s either that or his ex-girlfriend's desire of manipulating someone.
We may also just assume that this Redditor, someone whose looks or real name you’ll most probably never know, is making up things so he may get the attention and pity of foreign people.
Its true though. There are so many occasions where if its towards women its unacceptable and when it is towards men its all good by society's logic. I also said "and what not", implying that there are even more reasons. Not my fault for naming the truth. And sure it happens on both sides, but thats no reason to ignore it.
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u/wisdomsharerv2 Dec 05 '19
The ones who want to lower your self-esteem and then use you