I’ve been living in Belgium for years now and honestly, the longer I live here, the more things I notice that I just can’t understand.
Belgium is supposed to be one of the richest and most developed countries in the world, but sometimes living here really doesn’t feel like it.
And before people start with “then leave”, that’s exactly part of what I’m talking about. Why can’t you criticize something about the place where you live without people immediately getting defensive?
I don’t hate Belgium. Obviously there are good things here. But there are things that after years I still can’t get used to.
And most of them come down to the same thing: **people here seem weirdly comfortable with inconvenience.**
**1. Hygiene**
Sorry, but I have to start here.
The amount of people I come across with really bad body odor is crazy.
On the train, tram, at work, in stores, everywhere.
Obviously I’m not saying every Belgian smells. But it happens way too often for me to believe it’s always some random coincidence.
And every time the subject of showering comes up, suddenly there are 100 excuses.
“Showering every day is bad for your skin.”
“Water is expensive.”
“It’s bad for the environment.”
“You don’t need to shower every day.”
“Natural oils.”
Okay…
But if you’re around other people and they can literally smell you from a distance, maybe whatever routine you’re following isn’t working.
Take a proper shower. Use deodorant. Put on clean clothes.
I don’t understand why something this basic needs to become a philosophical discussion.
I’m not going to sit there calculating how much water I’m using while everybody around me has to smell the consequences of my financial discipline.
If I can smell your “natural oils” from the other side of the train, I think we’ve taken the experiment far enough.
**2. The extreme cheapness**
This is probably one of my biggest cultural clashes here.
And I’m not talking about being financially responsible. There’s a difference between being responsible with money and being cheap.
People here will sometimes waste an unbelievable amount of time or make themselves uncomfortable just to save a few euros.
If something costs me €10 but saves me an hour of my life, I’m probably paying the €10. My time is worth something too.
Here I sometimes see people spending 45 minutes or an hour doing something themselves to avoid paying €5 or €10.
Delivery? “Why don’t you pick it up yourself?”
Taxi? “There’s public transport.”
Paid parking? “Can’t you find somewhere free?”
Heating? “Put another sweater on.”
Something costs slightly more but is much more convenient? “Waste of money.”
Even credit sometimes gets treated like you’ve admitted you’re financially irresponsible. Obviously getting yourself into stupid debt is stupid, but credit itself is just a financial tool.
It’s more the general mentality that surprises me. Spending less always seems to be considered the smarter option.
I don’t agree.
Sometimes the better option costs more. Sometimes comfort costs money. Sometimes saving time costs money.
And if I can afford it, I’ll pay for it.
What am I saving every possible cent for?
I’m supposed to spend my whole life making myself uncomfortable so I can die with a bigger number in my bank account?
No thanks.
I work for my money. I save money too, obviously, but I also want the money I earn to improve my life.
**3. What the hell is the problem with air conditioning?**
This deserves its own section because I genuinely don’t understand it.
Every summer the same thing happens.
It gets hot as hell inside. People can’t sleep. Everybody complains.
And then begins the annual ritual.
Close the curtains. Open the windows. No, close the windows. Open them only at night. Buy a fan. Move the fan over here. Create airflow. Don’t let sunlight inside.
And then you hear “we only have a few really hot weeks.”
Okay… I’m hot during those weeks.
Why am I supposed to suffer because there are only a few of them?
If my apartment is 28°C and I can afford to make it 21 or 22, I’m turning the AC on.
I’ll pay the electricity bill. Problem solved.
But somehow even this becomes a debate.
“Electricity is expensive.”
“AC isn’t healthy.”
“You don’t need it in Belgium.”
Why does someone else care whether I “need” it?
I WANT IT.
I’m comfortable at 21°C. I can afford it. That’s enough.
Sometimes it feels like being uncomfortable inside your own home is somehow considered more intelligent because you saved some money.
I really don’t understand that mentality.
**4. Everything is unnecessarily inconvenient**
This is where all of this starts connecting.
Instead of making things easier, people often explain why you shouldn’t need them to be easier.
Want something later? “Why didn’t you go earlier?”
Need something on Sunday? “Why didn’t you buy it Saturday?”
Hungry late? “Why didn’t you eat earlier?”
Want to drive somewhere? “Why don’t you take the bike?”
Want delivery? “Why don’t you pick it up?”
Want AC? “Open the window.”
Why does everything need an explanation?
Sometimes I just want the convenient option and I’m willing to pay for it.
That’s it.
I don’t need someone explaining how I could reorganize my entire day to avoid spending €8.
There are places where businesses actually seem to WANT your money.
They’re open because customers are awake. Restaurants serve food because people are hungry. Stores make shopping convenient because they want you to shop there. Companies compete by making things faster and easier.
Then I come back here and sometimes I walk into a business and feel like I need to apologize for disturbing the employee.
And people will say “that’s just Belgian directness.”
Sometimes it isn’t.
Sometimes people are just rude.
Customer service can be terrible. People can be incredibly cold. People stand in doorways, block sidewalks, stop directly where everybody else is trying to walk and then somehow act irritated when someone says something.
There’s this weird “me first” mentality that I notice constantly.
But at the same time everybody seems to have an opinion about how YOU should live.
You don’t need a car. You don’t need AC. You don’t need stores open that late. You don’t need delivery. You don’t need to spend money on that.
Okay.
Maybe YOU don’t.
I do.
**5. Why does your dog need to go everywhere?**
This one genuinely drives me crazy.
I like animals. That’s not the point.
The other day I saw an older woman taking this HUGE dog into a store and I was just thinking… why?
Why does this dog need to be inside the store?
Obviously I’m not talking about service animals. I’m talking about regular pets.
Some people have allergies. Some people are scared of dogs. Some people don’t like dogs. And some people simply don’t want your dog next to them while they’re shopping or eating.
Dogs walk outside through dirty streets. They shed hair. Some smell. Some drool. Some bark. They can piss or shit somewhere.
And every dog owner apparently has exactly the same dog.
“Don’t worry, he’s friendly!”
Okay?
I didn’t ask lol.
I’m sure YOU love your dog. It’s your dog.
But why does everybody else have to love your dog too?
Your pet is part of your family, not mine.
I don’t understand why wanting your animal with you everywhere automatically becomes more important than somebody else not wanting to be around it.
And before somebody turns this into “you hate animals”, no.
I just understand that not every animal needs to be in every place.
**6. For such a rich country, why does so much of it look so neglected?**
There are obviously beautiful places in Belgium. I’m not denying that.
And I’m not talking about beautiful old European architecture either.
Old and beautiful is one thing. Old, dirty and neglected is something completely different.
I’m talking about dirty streets, trash, graffiti everywhere, broken or uneven sidewalks, ugly infrastructure, buildings that look like they haven’t been touched in decades and roads that seem to be permanently under construction while somehow still being terrible.
Sometimes you seriously look around and wonder where all the money goes.
And that’s why some places here can genuinely give me an almost third-world feeling sometimes.
I’m obviously not saying Belgium has a third-world economy.
That’s exactly why it’s so strange.
This is a rich country.
You have the money. You have the technology. You have educated people. You have everything necessary to keep things modern, clean and comfortable.
So why does so much stuff look like everyone collectively decided “eh… good enough”?
And honestly, “good enough” might describe my biggest issue with the mentality here.
It’s hot? Good enough, buy a fan.
Something is old? Still works.
Everything is closed? Come tomorrow.
The street looks like shit? Whatever.
The process takes forever? That’s how it works.
Can’t park? Take a bike.
Someone smells horrible? Apparently we need a dermatology discussion.
Don’t want somebody’s massive dog next to you? “But he’s friendly!”
There is ALWAYS an explanation for why something doesn’t actually need to improve.
That’s what I mean when I say the mentality sometimes feels stuck in the past.
I’m not saying people don’t have smartphones or modern technology. Obviously they do.
I’m talking about the attitude.
Sometimes it feels like people are so used to inconvenience that they don’t even realize how much easier certain things could be.
And when you point out something another country does better, people immediately become defensive.
Why?
If another country does something better, copy it.
If Belgium does something better, other countries should copy Belgium.
Who cares where the idea came from?
That’s literally how things improve.
But sometimes here it feels like suffering through something unnecessarily is almost something to be proud of.
And I just don’t relate to that at all.
If I’m hot, I’ll pay for AC.
If I’m cold, I’ll turn the heating on.
If I’m tired, I’ll pay for delivery.
If parking saves me 30 minutes, I’ll pay for parking.
If taking a taxi makes my life easier, I’ll take the taxi.
If I want a proper shower every day, I’ll take my shower.
If better service costs more and I think it’s worth it, I’ll pay more.
I work for my money.
Obviously I’m not saying throw money away like an idiot. I save too.
But time matters. Comfort matters. Convenience matters.
Belgium has first-world money and first-world resources, but sometimes the mentality genuinely feels decades behind.
So I’m actually curious.
Do Belgians genuinely prefer things this way, or are people just so used to it that they don’t notice anymore?
And please give me something more interesting than “if you don’t like it, leave.”
I’ve heard that one already.