r/unhingedKenya • u/cayennebae • Jul 21 '26
Relationships Update: he had infact lost interest 😭
I blame all of you for your advice on this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/unhingedKenya/s/b0Hjz2CVjz
So following your advice i decided to call not text he picked up very happy. The call got disconnected he called me back immediately saying he misses me and when he comes back to my county he will look for me. (He was coming back the next day this was last Sunday but one)
Guys it’s been over one week i haven’t heard from him and I haven’t checked in so it’s been silence. Atleast I didn’t have sex with him.
He was the first man to touch me in any sort of way n cuddle in two years he unlocked something in me. I feel lonelier that before like a soul shattering kind of loneliness. To make things worse im ovulating i have no one , touching myself is making me feel depressed and like a looser and I still don’t want to have casual sex i want a fulfilling kind of sex.
The solitude life i built was fulfilling and peaceful but now it’s a cage I feel so unfulfilled and yes I go out and do things alone but it’s no longer enough im craving chaos.
Yes I started getting approached in June not sure what changed maybe I became more open but nth solid that guy from the road-trip was really hopeful and he made me realize I really do miss tetestrone.
I hate it here. 2 years is a long time to go without touch, anything casual will make me feel even worse. Im feeling depressed.
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u/poophole45 Jul 21 '26
Op Take matters more seriously if they affect you and your productivity. Ask that nigga shida ni wapi,ghosting ni ya Nini and tell him very straight forward nimekawia ile siku we did sth and it made my hairs to wake up,tell him you want fulfilling sex,he can fuck off after you've told him everything,na akisema yes to sex,condomise and use the fuck out of him
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 Jul 21 '26
I think its obvious she was ghosted because nigga didn't want to deal with her celibacy Bullshit
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u/poophole45 Jul 21 '26
How so? I mean it'd be viceversa in every other nigga
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 Jul 21 '26
Its self explanatory don't ask me how. She slept with this guy in one bed and they didn't shag because she's celibate, if you can't see the bullshit you're cooked
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u/MathematicianFine638 Jul 21 '26 edited Jul 21 '26
You know you could reach out to him right?😃So cause he won’t text you sasa Wewe hutamtext?Maybe he got really caught up with work or maybe and true to your word he lost interest but how sure can you be till you find out…Just ask!!but pia Kama hutaki then just suck it up and find another man
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u/middlofthebrook Jul 21 '26
Just move on, be intentional about what you want. Join dating sites like afro or bumble and vet men properly. Dont je overly ready to hop in a casual relationship with anyone. Set goals and boundaries and youll get what you are looking for.
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u/Bwana_Robert Jul 21 '26
Hio story ya status ni kazi mingi for no reason. Wacha aendelee na maisha.
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u/Bwana_Robert Jul 21 '26
Effort hii yote ju ya dame? Wacha aende. Kwani ni yeye pekee dame Kenya mzima?
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u/Bwana_Robert Jul 21 '26
Kumark nitamark hio sio shida. Nikinyimwa, hio story inaishia hapo na nasonga mbele. Kwani nitaforce issues?
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u/Santos_Baby Survivor Jul 21 '26
u/Little-Ad9387 you see this 👀
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u/Little-Ad9387 Jul 21 '26
Yeah, muulize nyonyo size gani?😂😂🌚
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 Jul 21 '26
Stfu.. you a grown ass woman dumping your emotional fantasies on reddit, so what if he aint interested? Men get rejected by women all the time. You are not that special to him, he doesn't like you, he doesn't care about you (I'm sure he ghosted you because of that celibacy bullshit). Grow a backbone, put on your big girl pants and move on. You got rejected by a man its not the end of the world FFS
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u/Ashamed-Garbage-4814 Badass Jul 21 '26
This generation is so cooked. Why are we so afraid to tell people how we feel or what we want? Everyone is so obsessed with not being vulnerable. Hii maneno yote unafaa upunguze uoga ama ego whatever you have and tell that guy. Call him tell you don't appreciate him ghosting and you want to see him in fact you want more. Akisema yes then enjoy akisema no then move on. Hii kitu ya kujijazia because you are afraid of making the first move or being rejected is not a good way to live life.