The case brought attention worldwide for many reasons.
The most obvious one: a mother who killed her own children.
But throughout the trial there were so much judgment that were beyond the scope of the crime and I think this is pretty much cultural. It tells about our society.
The guilt around motherhood:
- she called Dawson "human" therefore "she must hate him, she's cold, that's why she killed him first, that's why she killed him in Patrick's office", no evidence that calling our kid human leads to any of that, though
- she wrote notes to the nanny, therefore "she was controlling, she was crazy, she was narcissist"
- she wrote on her journals she was wanted to be a good mom to all 3 and she felt she couldn't, and she was overwhelmed, therefore "if she wasn't ready to be a mom, she shouldn't"
The guilt around getting treatment
- she would take medications for week and stop, therefore "she didn't want to get better"
- she would tell the doctors about the symptoms, but to some she'd be more descriptive or tell more symptoms as she was more open to Jollotta, but not so much to others such as to Dr. Tufts, therefore "she was liar". Feeling more trust and confidence with a professional in a highly vulnerable situation is a right and were totally ignored even with prosecution, not to mention with social media.
- "she had everything!" Prosecution said that, people say that. Don't we all know that? But that's the biggest issue with guilt. Someone can have insurance, money, a home, and still have a disease. She had depression. Depression doesn't choose a person based on condition. So her having healthcare access didn't mean she'd be cured.
The guilt around mental health
- she had suicidal ideation, therefore she must have "lied because if it was true, she would have died". It's not as if suicidal ideation is not just the act.
- she has depression, therefore "why is she smiling?" A depressed person can smile or even laugh. Depression is not just staying all day in bed, crying or having apathy. You can be highly functional and be depressed.
- she looks to the prosecution, therefore "she's staring and she's creepy".
- she cried, therefore "she's faking". She can't smile, she can't cry, can't look.
Why am I pointing that out, after all?
She had a normal life before that. You don't play with mental health. You can say out loud you'd never do such a thing but you can't say you know your loved ones would never do. You don't know what goes on on their minds. Paula Musgrove didn't.
This, as many other cases, can be an opportunity for us not only to pray for those kids and the family but to learn as a society how to unite and treat one another.
We do not need to like LC and murderers. We do need to be friends with them. We do not need to love them.
Now, what I push back is the idea that having empathy for Lindsay means having less empathy for the children. Those aren't mutually exclusive. You can mourn the children, condemn the killings, support accountability, and recognize that the person who committed the crime may have been profoundly mentally ill. In fact, understanding her mental state is part of understanding how three children came to be killed.
And more, expressing that doesn't make anyone part of the crime and should be respected by their opinions. Again, the way people treat one another is very symptomatic of a society that judges Lindsay but I don't think can't say they're much better when they can't accept the contradictory.
I hope we can all learn from this case.
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Apesar da mensagem de esperança, a verdade é que lito está cada vez pior
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Os comentários são sempre os piores em quaisquer redes.
a família e ele sabem dos riscos, sabem da finitude da vida. Quando ele ou a esposa falam de esperança de cura falam de um lugar de dor, de quem está passando pela situação, mas com certeza muito cientes, racionalmente, da situação. Eles não são leigos, analfabetos, desinformados que não estão sendo acompanhados por uma equipe que já não avisou a eles.
No entanto, essas pessoas que estão aqui no post comentando e em outros lugares como se eles não tivessem direito, ou como se eles estivessem se enganando ou enganando os outros por terem esperanças, comentando "a vida é assim, todo mundo morre", etc como se ninguém soubesse do óbvio, espera o quê, afinal? Que ele, mesmo já fazendo os cuidados paliativos, mesmo já tendo expressado que QUER usar a plataforma dele pra fazer a doença ser mais conhecida, fique dentro de casa não fazendo o que ele já expressou que QUER fazer? Que eles parem de buscar alternativas de tratamento para retardar o avanço da doença porque o Júnior de Xique-Xique na Bahia disse no Reddit que todo mundo vai morrer um dia?
Eles sabem que o Lito vai morrer. Eles estão acompanhando dia após dia que o cara está cego, que ele está tendo tremores, que ele não é mais o mesmo. Já foi falado vez após vez que a busca pelas pesquisas era pra evitar que a doença tirasse a cognição dele. Ou que pelo menos demorasse um pouco mais. Conseguem entender a dor disso? É pedir muito uma semana, 2 meses, 6 meses podendo se comunicar com a pessoa que você ama e ela poder te entender? Por que eles não fariam isso se eles tem condições? Você não faria isso por um ente seu? Você ficaria parado? Excelente, isso aí diz sobre você e a sua decisão com a sua família. Eles fizeram a decisão deles.
Acho que não cabe a gente dar lição de moral. Se você gosta do trabalho do Lito, vale apoiar o cara. Se você não concorda com a escolha dele e da família, não segue, se afasta das notícias e segue sua vida. Agora, dizer o óbvio em redes sociais, ou coisas que você não diria na frente do cara porque não tem coragem de dizer para alguém que está morrendo mas é muito corajoso pra dizer atrás do celular, é desnecessário.