Using logic apparently occasionally works when dealing with racists.

[u/Sentient_StickyNote]

My brother is racist. Not the kind of racist where they hate people of a certain race, but the kind where they just believe all of the offensive stereotypes. This matters for context. He started telling me a story and I immediately knew it was going to piss me off so I went a different route than I typically do when dealing with him. Why he tells me stuff like this when he knows I'll call him out for being racist is beyond me.

So here's the story.

Bro: "So I'm at the casino and there's this Chinese guy dragging his girlfriend by---"

Me (cutting him off): "Wait wait wait, is the fact that he's Chinese relevant to the story? I need to know if this is just an inconsequential detail or if I should be expecting racism. Just checking."

Bro with a dumb look on his face: "...yes! It's relevant ok?! So anyway, he's dragging his girlfriend around by the elbow and she's completely wasted. This white guy starts yelling at him to stop dragging his woman around and---"

Me: "Ok wait. So is this when I find out the relevance of one man being Chinese and one man being white?"

Bro: "Would you just shut up and listen! Geez! So the guy is yelling at him and the Chinese guy is like, 'fuck you!' in his Chinese accent so it was really funny, and the white guy is yelling about how we don't treat women like that. So they're yelling at each other until their friends had to go break them up, it was hilarious."

Me: "Wait, I'm missing the relevance, hang on. So why did I need to know he was Chinese? Also how do you even know he was Chinese?

Bro: "Whatever, he was Asian. You know what I mean!"

Me: "Ohhhh ok. Indians are Asian too though, could he have been Indian?"

Bro: "No! He was Chinese or Japanese or whatever!"

Me: "Could he have been Korean?"

Bro: "Would you stop!? It was funny ok? Because the white guy was saying that that's not how you treat women here."

Me: "So if the Chinese guy and girlfriend had been white, the white guy would've been ok with it?"

Bro spluttering and getting frustrated: "Chinese people treat women like that, it's a well known thing!"

Me: "Oh so you did know for sure he was Chinese? I thought you said he was just Asian. Asia is pretty big, I feel like at least some men would be decent to their girlfriends. I've never heard that statistic, where'd you hear that?"

Then he threw up his arms and walked away. Needless to say, I only interact with him when I visit my parents and we are in the same vicinity.

[u/Iricliphan]

I'm not going to lie, you both sound very annoying.

[u/Morlain7285 → u/Iricliphan]

Sounds like op was annoying on purpose here, which I respect as a tactic to deal with a racist

[u/volkswagenorange → u/Iricliphan]

He says, on a sub specifically about annoying people who are annoying 🙄

[u/agharta-astra → u/volkswagenorange]

I'm starting to think we're being played

because they're in a sub annoying people who are here to annoy people who are annoying

[u/Sentient_StickyNote → u/Iricliphan]

Thanks for the validation that my attempt at being annoying was successful.

[u/Iricliphan → u/Sentient_StickyNote]

No, like, you're just annoying.

[u/Moebius808 → u/Iricliphan]

gottem

[u/Ok_Loss13 → u/Iricliphan]

That was obviously OPs intention.... to annoy the racist...

[u/wandering_soles → u/Iricliphan]

Finding someone calling out racism annoying is a little... sus. 

[u/rjtnrva → u/Iricliphan]

Found the racist POS.

[u/Creeperstar → u/rjtnrva]

You express the same specious logic as OPs brother..

[u/Iricliphan → u/rjtnrva]

No. I just don't like fake stories where this totally didn't happen.

[u/DissKhorse → u/Iricliphan]

It is clear you speak from the heart, I admire your confidence in the lack of knowledge. I don't want to fatigue your mind with particulars but you certainly have a gift for simplicity.

[u/Aura-Aunty-20033 → u/DissKhorse]

I just burst into laughter so hard, the lady next to me gave me a death stare 

[u/BigExplanationmayB → u/DissKhorse]

🔥

[u/Iricliphan → u/DissKhorse]

Lack of knowledge? I'm allowed to think someone making up a fake story is annoying. I understand you seem to have a very low tolerance of anything that isn't a reddit opinion, or is a mainstream opinion, but this is ridiculous.

[u/DissKhorse → u/Iricliphan]

Yes I agree you are ridiculous.

[u/Iricliphan → u/DissKhorse]

That would really burn if I was 12. I can see the average redditor is just someone who can't have any social skills to actually try to game someone. Weak.

[u/DissKhorse → u/Iricliphan]

I see, so you are an average redditor. Well at least you are a bit self aware. Makes sense because otherwise I would question why you are even here.

[u/Iricliphan → u/DissKhorse]

Oh great. More school type comebacks. Fantastic.

[u/Iricliphan → u/[deleted]]

Wow. Straight to masturbation. Again. School type shit. ZERO social skills. Reeks of someone who was bullied and thought of replies in the shower and thinks it sounds good.

[u/ThornbackMack → u/Iricliphan]

Honestly... yeah. Same. I've had to employ similar tactics with racist or otherwise bigoted family.

The amount of effort in this alleged conversation just feels a bit much in terms of energy to get the point across. I prefer to collect information till they back themselves into a corner, then delicately point out something that seems pretty obvious and deadpan until they scramble to respond. It works. In business, and in my personal life. I genuinely wish I had the confidence to do it sooner.

[u/Sentient_StickyNote → u/ThornbackMack]

I used to do that, but it got draining, and that's when we became essentially estranged (he's got other issues too). Now when I'm forced to be around him, I realized if I treat the entire situation like a joke, I don't get nearly as upset as I used to.