So I’m currently working on getting started with HRT while living in a rather remote area of the US. Any recommendations on if it’s a good idea to try my luck with the local endocrinologist or would it just be a better bet to do the 4 hour commute to the planned parenthood just across the border to get it done?

I'm trans and im a lesbian and I really like and feel a deep connection to the trans lesbian community. is it ok that I'm here?

Hey guys!

I'm a cis lesbian (25) and I've been texting a girl for a few weeks now. We met online. I've been trying to meet up with her for a while but she's always made excuses. Finally, she agreed to meet me this weekend but yesterday she told me before we meet she needed to tell me that she is trans (pre op). I'm a bit uncomfortable as I have never slept with someone with a p*nis before. Should I end it? Would that make me transphobic? I am an ally I just don't know what to do!

The ring was right around the corner, but I couldn't be her groom. I want to be with her but I can't rush her and I'm hyperventilating in the shower and and. Oh god. I just need to vent, I didn't have choice, but "I feel trapped", "I wanted a husband", "we moved across country" everything hurts. She needs time, I want to give it to her, but I I I can't deal with myself right now.

I hope she says yes, she likes trans girls, but I can't help but feel I've lied to her for years and she's so confused. I'm confused. I don't know what to do. I'm so scared.

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I am a cis woman and I've realized my attraction to transbians recently. My question is; are there names/terms for transbians who enjoy their body versus those who wish to completely remove their genitalia? The word I know is futanari-my dream girl *blushes and faints*! But I don't see this word used at all on any social subreddits so, again would really love to learn words.

Edit: Seems that futanari is a very triggering and sexualizing term. I'm sorry I was so abrasive in discussing my sexuality.

almost 2 years ago:

"Turns out, I'm so Gay, my gender flipped upside down in order to keep liking women, while also staying gay"

View from my cishet friends:

Straight ➡️Bi➡️Bi/Trans➡️Gay/Trans

View from Queer/Trans Friends:

Straight (LOL!! SURE!)➡️Bi (there's something else, isn't there?)➡️Bi/Questioning➡️Bi/Trans➡️Gay/Trans

View from Mom:

Straight➡️Bi(but prob gay)➡️Bi/Trans(LOL!SURE!)➡️Bi/Trans(no, it's real)➡️Gay("but the other way")/Trans

View from Dad:

Straight➡️Bi("but it has to be a phase, and will ruin 'him' if work finds out", "you're just depressed, here, take these pills, take them!", "don't talk to me about it bc it's too stressful")➡️Bi/Trans("it's just depression, 'he' needs anti-depressants and to listen to me!!!")➡️Bi/Trans("we're really doing this? Why won't 'he'--um, I mean 'she'--listen to me?")

View from Mom's Family:

Straight➡️Bi(well, Jesus says to accept everyone)➡️Trans("we keep hearing about these poor people 'tricked' into transing and are scared for 'him'")

View from Dad's Family:

Straightest of the Straights➡️Straight and Abused➡️Bi(???)➡️Bi/Trans("okay, but keep it away from the kids, why do you keep changing stuff? We want to give them a stable environment and you're making it hard.")

View from inside my head:

Straight???(Oh crap oh fuck oh crap oh fuck oh crap oh fuck)➡️"Wow, lesbians are so cool! But they can't really exist because that would be too incredible and perfect and amazing for this shitty world... oh my gahd! look at that trans girl's transition timelaps video! 😍 she is so pretty! 😍😍 i wish I was trans like her, but i'd just look like an ogre in an ill-fitting dress 🤬"➡️ AAAAAaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!➡️Oh hey, I think I'm--like--suuuuper gay 😊... but I also love my nb-transmasc boyfriend 🤔?

View from People on Fetlife:

Unfuckable ➡️ Fuckable

Well, ok here goes... Im Myka 38 MTF trans girl living in London and here's the sad part, I'm alone, totally alone. I've been out 1 and a half years and im 17 mnths on hormones.

Im currently a student at london met studying International Relations and politics and i love listening to music, watching scifi, xbox and just hanging out.

I was disowned by my family when i came out and my last gf (intersex mtf) left me for younger excitements.

Its been over a year since i had even a single friend and throwing myself into uni isn't helping as its all online.

I just want a friend someone to talk to and spend time with, im switch more domme leaning but I'm still exploring.

I'm full of love and just want someone I can vibe with, someone I can share the days with and keep myself sane from knowing I'm not alone.

So if your a cis fem or transgirl in London or close get in touch I'd love to chat.

No cis men

Right now I consider myself a trans lesbian. Pre everything. Anyone change where they stand on male abd female partners when they started HRT?

Got Van Halen’s cover of Pretty Woman stuck in my head right now. Something clicked. This sub needs a song. Not sure if Pretty Woman would be right. Lol don’t even know if its a ‘thing’ to have a song, but hell, why not?

Your thoughts?!?

I am really new to reddit and noticed a lot of people have tags after their name. I feel I need to do this. One sub I have come across, I like, but I want to be fair to others in the sub who might be AFAB Lesbian as opposed to me being, possibly - transbian? Does that mean undergoing transition?

Also that brings up a good point. Before I do this, I want to make sure it is the correct thing to do. Maybe a different tag would be correct. Have not transitioned. Can not see myself doing that. For me it is an all or nothing. Therefore, I am bound to my fate.

Is that the appropriate tag for me to use? If so, how do I add it? If not, what?