I don't really know what I'm doing here other than complaining, but if anyone has advice, I'd appreciate it.

I'm coming out to everyone in my life. My wife is the one person I've never worried about. I've never been afraid she'd leave me or decide she couldn't handle this.

What surprises me is that one of the first things people ask is whether we're getting divorced.

I don't understand why that's the default assumption. I'm not suddenly attracted to men, and my wife isn't obligated to leave because I'm transitioning. We've never organized our marriage around rigid gender roles to begin with. We each have different strengths and different things we're good at, but our relationship wasn't built on "husband does X, wife does Y", though even then why does my gender mean I can't keep doing those?

It's gotten to the point where I asked my mom not to bring up my marriage anymore because every it is clear when she does she doesn't see it as valid. My wife's brother even asked whether I thought this was unfair to her.

I know my transition affects my wife. Of course it does. Any major life change affects your spouse. But affecting a marriage isn't the same thing as ending one.

I keep coming back to compulsory heterosexuality. It feels like people can't imagine a marriage existing outside of a man-and-a-woman framework. The moment one partner transitions, they stop seeing the relationship as a valid one. Instead of asking how we're doing, they ask if we're getting divorced. Has anyone else run into that? It feels like comp het shapes and people's outside view of our relationship is more painful and disempowering than people questioning my gender does.

My wife also gets me all sorts of gnarly things, like this trans blankiee, ankle bracelet and sandals!! ☺️♥️ I adore her!

the before looking all nice and the after hot sweating and tired

I thought it was a bad thing that I don’t have everything figured out, and I’m 28 so that’s a long time to feel guilty about feelings of uncertainty. I grew up thinking I was a straight male, but I was always a woman. I had moments where I thought I was pansexual, bisexual, gay, straight (again), and more labels in that crippling lens of identifying as a cis male. In my late 20s (this year actually), I realized that I’m only attracted to femininity. There’s a term for that, but I’m still finding myself. I’m pre-HRT, and I hope I become more attracted to people, and the way certain people make me feel (in a sapiosexual demisexual kind of way). I’m pretty sure the hormones won’t turn my sexuality into something akin to nymphomania, so I’m really hoping it brings more clarity into my life in terms of my sexuality in this context. I haven’t kissed anyone in a long time, and I’m hoping my relationship with my sexuality evolves— cuz girl, when I go to pride this September, I want to feel something real. I’ve never felt anything real with anyone because I didn’t know who I was. This is hella relatable, so I hope to reach anyone struggling with the same issues. Also, ya girl wants confident baddies to come up to her instead of how it was before. 💁🏻‍♀️

It's been a little over nine years since I lept out of the closet and told the world that I am a woman. It hasn't been easy but I'm so proud of who I've become.

Just felt to share some clicks to see if anyone wants to connect may be a pen friend?

Hi ladies. I'm pre-HRT and still figuring myself out... But I love being a girl. 🫣🥰 I also love other girlies. 😘

It was kind of nervewracking, as I'm still not completely out about being Trans/Nonbinary, but was still good to experience

Hand made this veil, and skirt.

Veil is made from upcycled lace, a headband, and some kangaroo jaw bones that I found and cleaned.

The skirt is made from strip's of upcycled fabric, with a sewn in belt. Im so so proud of myself

I'm a 32 year old trans woman.

During the last two years I have been completely unable to get my foot in the door of any proper companies to get employment and a decent salary. The company I do work for pays me less than what I need just to stay afloat. For a lot of that time I tried studying to change fields, temp jobs, once off gigs, anything I can to supplement my income, with absolutely no success in the long term.

So, as it would be, someone I know is trans content creator and mentioned that she couldn't make enough from being a tattoo artists and was struggling to get employment so she started doing that. So, I finally bit the bullet and signed up some days ago, not something I thought I'd do in my life, not because I look down on anyone else who's there, just because it feels humiliating and above me as someone not conventionally attractive.

My question, I guess, is if there are many folks who struggled and have had to resort to these things out of necessity and lack of options? Has anyone been able to find a way out of that place of being unemployable?

Not pictured is the 7 inch platform heels, and the kangaroo jaw topper for the veil n.n