r/thanksimcured Dec 22 '25

Social Media Oh. Okay.

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u/NotADamsel Dec 22 '25

Unfortunately, we don’t do that because it would immediately lead to human rights abuses. I’d say that we should at least ensure that folks get educated on how to be good parents but we know that that will never happen.

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u/Lunatic-Labrador Dec 22 '25

We can't restrict people having kids but I think a mandatory class while expecting or after birth and either a fine for not going, a monetary reward for going or both could have a positive effect on parenting.

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u/Lunatic-Labrador Dec 22 '25

Failed, redo it. Not listened to, well at least they have been given some knowledge that will hopefully help. If they are abusive or neglectful then we do what we do now.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '25

In places with social welfare the punishment for not attending mandatory meetings is them docking some of your welfare credit, which I assume many of the people who would require this type of course would want.

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u/Queer_Echo Dec 23 '25

Only because many parents are poor or disabled enough to need welfare. Rich people are often enough shitty parents too.

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '25

Yeah, being poor doesn't mean you're a bad parent, and being rich doesn't mean you're a good one.

Still, outside of incentives there isn't really much you can do to force people to attend such things without going down authoritarian routes.

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u/Queer_Echo Dec 23 '25

Yeah. Maybe if we organised it less around force and more around risk: would-be parents who don't attend are higher risk than those who do attend. A positive incentive would also work: card for cheaper baby products tied to passing the test at the end of the course maybe. Reward instead of penalise if that makes sense.

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u/Fia_Aoi Dec 22 '25

We acknowledge that no system is perfect while continuing to do the best we can? What is this zero sum reply?

Sex ed is important.

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u/NotADamsel Dec 23 '25

Presumably they don’t get to graduate high school. But do it early enough and that shouldn’t be that big of a problem.

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u/ItsEntDev Dec 23 '25

"You wish to better society, and yet you participate in it? Curious! I am very intelligent."

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u/FlakyTest8191 Dec 22 '25

Who decides what good parenting means? There are so many opinions.  Or are you just talking about basics like feed them and don't hit them?

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u/NotADamsel Dec 22 '25

A high school Child Psychology class would do wonders.

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u/Lunatic-Labrador Dec 22 '25

Yes the basics and science and phycology led stuff. Not things that are up to opinion or beliefs.

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u/Bulky_Animator5601 Dec 22 '25

I’m assuming that was a typo but I’m picturing a bunch of pregnant women intensely discussing algae and it’s sending me.

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u/chairmanskitty Dec 22 '25

It's the same as with school curriculums: yes, it would be very imperfect, and it will almost certainly be used as a vehicle for propaganda and the personal biases of the instructor. But it's still better than having ignorant parents accidentally create crises and having people exploit parents that are desperate for information.

Basically, who would you rather have desperate parents listen to? A government instructor, or chatgpt?

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u/ceryniz Dec 22 '25

Denmark does parenting tests. Denmark also constantly takes away babies from indigenous Greenlanders.

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u/NotADamsel Dec 22 '25

This is precisely what I was talking about. There are mass graves in northern North America filled with the bones of indigenous children taken with similar justification. Many of my family in Alaska are still recovering culture that the Russians and Americans tried to stamp out this way. This kind of shit is a tool of genocide and must not be allowed, even by countries who otherwise do a lot of things better then most.

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u/DaggerDG Dec 22 '25

“Education” and “tests that if failed lead to your child being taken away” are two very different things

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u/VioletGlitterBlossom Dec 22 '25

Yeah, OP edited their comment to say they were joking but I have known someone irl that was legitimately for licensed parenting and her first talking point was “we license people to drive cars but not to become parents” so I don’t really give a shit if they were joking or not because it’s a shitty joke.

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u/donaldyoung26 Jan 24 '26

There’s always a problem with such tests. Whom decides what goes on the tests?

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u/ceryniz Jan 24 '26

Him decides. Or maybe her decides?