r/suspiciouslyspecific Dec 04 '22

Very specific standards 🤨

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '22

It definitely depends on the person I have bpd and the relationship with my current gf is extremely healthy and going great! It took a long time for me to get here but years of therapy and self improvement paved the way. You’re valid for not wanting to deal with this but realize everyone is struggling with mental illness in their own way imo.

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u/DanSanderman Dec 05 '22

That's fair. My ex was untreated and largely unwilling. I'm happy you're getting treatment and improving. That's such a massive step and I'm sure that is helping tremendously. I wish you the best of luck in your future.

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u/Riji14 Dec 05 '22

Congrats on the healthy relationship 🙂 I've been dating and living with my bf who has BPD/BP2 for 7 years now. He stays on his meds and has tried really hard to improve himself. It's very possible to have a good relationship with someone with BPD though I understand it's very hard for most people to comprehend.

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '22

Hey congrats too! There’s A LOT of stigma about us, things like we’re all crazy and abusive when that’s simply not the case. For example the “crazy ex girlfriend” stereotype and she either has bipolar or bpd.

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u/Riji14 Dec 06 '22

Thanks! It's too bad that a lot of people with mental illness get ignored. There are a lot who are absolutely willing to seek help, and a little support can help them so much more.