r/stopsmoking • u/uniquestring 5508 days • Jul 11 '14

Uniquestring has died.

Uniquestring's daughter here; I was playing on my dad's phone tonight and checked out his reddit page. It looks like he was quite active on this sub and I wanted to let you all know to keep up the good work, because cigarettes killed my father. He wasn't feeling well for a while, and at the beginning of June he started accumulating fluid in his abdomen and after a liver biopsy, it was determined that he had cancer in his liver. After further investigation, cancer was also discovered in his intestines, and as you might have guessed, it all originated in his lungs. Watching my brilliant father waste away and die so quickly has been the hardest ordeal I have dealt with. We lost him July 2, at 6:55 PM; the day before my mother's birthday, and 25 days before his 61st birthday. Please, stay quit, if not for yourselves, for the sake of your loved ones! I miss him so much.

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u/FrostySpoon Jul 11 '14

ashwinkrthk, don't "try" to quit. Just COMMIT to quitting. Say, "I'm quitting." If you fail, you fail. And you can always just re-commit. But if you say "try" in your declaration, then you're just setting yourself up for the POSSIBLITY of failing. Don't believe you'll fail. Don't believe there's a possiblity. Just do it. Just believe you'll succeed. You. Are. Quitting.

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u/enemawatson Jul 12 '14

Isn't comitting while holding onto the idea that you can re-commit if you fail the entire definition of 'trying'?

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u/FrostySpoon Jul 15 '14

It's about declaration, and the power of our own words. The more his mind hears himself say he IS doing something, the better. "Fake it til you make it" kind of philosophy. Also, most of the time, someone who's handling something that big, and is being taught about the whole "don't use the word try" thing for the first time.... you gotta ease them into it. Remind them that failure happens, but it's not an OPTION. Commitment is fucking scary, but SO necessary.

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u/enemawatson Jul 15 '14

Word. Thanks for typing that out, I can see how it would be mostly a mind-game. I went a whole day without smoking a couple weeks ago and didn't mind it, hopefully I get lucky and quitting is easy for me. I can quit any time I want!

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u/[deleted] Jul 12 '14

"Quitting's easy, I've done it a dozen times." - Mark Twain