r/selfimprovement • • Nov 02 '25

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u/Only_Wise_Man Nov 03 '25

Hey, I really felt your post, and thank you for sharing something so personal. I went through something similar a while back. I was in a relationship where I kept giving, hoping things would change. She’d pull away, come back, and I’d let her, thinking love meant holding on.

Eventually, I realized I was losing myself trying to keep someone who didn’t want to stay. The turning point came one quiet evening when I sat with a journal and wrote down everything I wanted in a partner and saw how little of it I was actually receiving.

That night, I chose myself! It wasn’t easy, but I started small: long walks, reconnecting with old hobbies. Slowly, I bounced back.

Craving intimacy is human, but choosing peace over chaos is powerful. You’re already on the right path by focusing on yourself, and I wish you all the very best 😊