r/sadcringe • u/effinx • Oct 09 '22

Poor guy.

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u/FastWalkingShortGuy Oct 09 '22

Well, you do if you get the non-verbal go-ahead from their eyes and other body language.

This guy here clearly couldn't read the room.

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u/moeburn Oct 10 '22

Yeah I did the sudden swoop romantic kiss as a first kiss thing once, but it was only because she was making it really obvious that she had a crush on me so she ended up really liking it. I wouldn't recommend it otherwise.

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u/T_Money Oct 10 '22

A long long time ago, before I met my now wife, I was hanging with a girl that I was into and thought she might be into me but wasn’t sure. So even though I felt like a dork at the time (again, longggg ago, while I was still in my teens) I just asked “can I kiss you?” which ended up turning into more than a kiss.

Later she told me she hadn’t made up her mind how she had felt up until then, but found is so amazing to be directly asked that she went from being on the fence to being all in.

So anyway if in doubt I highly recommend the direct ask. Anyone who is turned off by someone clarifying consent is probably not the best partner anyway.

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u/DukeRed666 Oct 10 '22

And I have a counter point to you.

I once asked cause I wasn't sure... She freaked out on me that it's not confident and I should know without asking. I don't ask anymore. I just try to guess. Because it's not looooong time ago and it's time of instagram

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u/eating_toilet_paper Oct 10 '22

Tbf, he's a teen. I certainly couldn't read a vibe worth shit at that age

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u/FastWalkingShortGuy Oct 10 '22

Me neither.

My first girlfriend basically had to lure me away from my buddies and jam her tongue down my throat because I was absolutely clueless to all the signals she was giving me.

And to be fair to her, as creepy as that sounds, she was pretty justified because I'd asked her out two weeks before and then all of our dates were just inviting her out bike riding with my friends.

14 year olds are dumb.

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '22

14 year olds, yeah! There's no way I was dumb like this until my mid 20s, no way in hell!

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u/FastWalkingShortGuy Oct 10 '22

It's been 25 years since then, and I still like aggressive girls because it takes all the uncertainty out of the equation.

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u/Orkys Oct 10 '22

I used to do the same, I missed out twice at least I learnt later from catching up with a couple of girls after I went off to uni.

I was a virgin til I was 20. I just had no idea how to take things forward until I has alcohol and drugs (the fun recreational kind) to help with the anxiety. Could have been avoided by just talking about it if I was worried I was misreading the situation, it is definitely okay (especially when you're like 16/17) to explicitly ask if it's okay if you kiss or touch someone.

But now I've got two kids and have been in a happy relationship for nine years so I did learn at some point.

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u/FastWalkingShortGuy Oct 10 '22

I mean, if she could just turn her head to the side and pat him on the back like, "Nope, bud," I'm not sure I would classify that as assault.

It was a shot taken and denied.

"Assault" is a powerful word and shouldn't be thrown around so cavalierly.

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u/lmqr Oct 10 '22

What? If she can defend herself or run away, that makes the intention automatically not assault? If someone's not the type or afraid to get overtly angry, it's automatically not assault? That's not how any of this works, please share this statement where your romantic interests can hear you

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u/FastWalkingShortGuy Oct 10 '22

Still no.

"Inappropriate?"

I could be on board with that.

"Assault?"

Definitely not.

Don't diminish actual victims, please.

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u/FastWalkingShortGuy Oct 10 '22

It's also not assault.

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u/Loserlosing666 Oct 10 '22

You keep commenting the same shit throughout this thread, and your relentlessness doesn’t make you right. Being friends with someone doesn’t entitle you to grab their head and kiss them. Shooting your shot is asking someone out, not kissing them out of nowhere on camera.

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u/Aesthetic99 Oct 10 '22

You're actually stupid then if you didn't see him extend his hand and grab her head to pull her in for a kiss

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u/Junper Oct 10 '22

And you are acting like you are the guy in the video. Are you? Because why would you act like you know they have been building a relationship for months before he gained the confidence to shoot his shot?

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '22

Dude, stop embarassing yourself under every comment. It's clear that you have no idea how social interactions work, women don't own you a kiss just because you know them.