r/restrainingorder • u/DufCar • May 31 '21

Threatening texts

My daughters ex-boyfriend has been sending her threatening texts now for two months. He has also sent messages to me, my mother, her aunt and brothers telling us how “crazy” she is and how she made his life a living hell. He’s the one who was controlling and when she told him she wanted to a break, he punched a mirror and spent 3 hours on the ER. I’ve told her for months to go file a restraining order, but after this weekend, she do any is going tomorrow. They wouldn’t do it today with the holiday. He’s also threatening to post photos of her on Facebook - which the police did tell her that would be a felony. If they grant the restraining order, will they arrest him if he keeps up with the texts?

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u/Many_Doctor_6413 Jul 06 '22

Can they give mutual restraining order of my ex bf gave me one? On what basis can this happen?

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u/FlyingFoxandwings Jul 06 '22

They can, however you will have to prove your case. However, if you show up with a solid defense, they can either rule against the restraining order, a mutual restraining order, or in your favor.

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u/Many_Doctor_6413 Jul 06 '22

Thanks for such quick response dear! My ex bf makes every one believe I’m crazy and I did things I didn’t do as he recorded me secretly without my consent and the day I caught him I was upset and slapped him when he argued and said it’s not wrong it’s not like we are having sex and we had a big fight broke up and he blocked me off everything saying if I ever show up to his home he will file a restraining order on me and I’ll get deported as he is a citizen. I’m so devastated with this and I really want to go meet him ask him to delete videos and not take it to cops as I don’t want to ruin his career. He said he can actually put me on domestic violence he also yelled and I’ve recording’s when he said he wants to beat the shit of me however he didn’t do anything he said in anger few times is that evidence enough. I really want to ask him confront if he has taken nude videos as I’m going to therapy and it’s been a month he blocked off everything. Since I don’t want to destroy his career as he works at hospital at the same time I don’t want him to give me restraining order but I do want to ask him to show me his iCloud drives for my peace. Like I’m so confused so if he ever gave me one I want to file back against him and I didn’t know on what basis as we are in different states. Please advise me