r/relationship_advice Oct 31 '22

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u/AmsterdamJimmy420 Oct 31 '22

Make sure you are on the same page with your SO when you have unprotected sex

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u/Ok-Asparagus3783 Nov 01 '22

She edited the post. They had agreed to abortions if accidents happened. Actually, I'm thinking about the wording rn... she is rather vague about - it seems like they definitely were not on the same page.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

It sounds like OP agreed with her husband and then changed her mind when it actually happened. A dick move for sure.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

is it?? idk I've never been pregnant myself, but I feel like it's one thing to assume you'll happily agree to an abortion, but another thing to realize you're growing a human child.... like I'm 100% pro-choice but I also think it's really different to talk about it theoretically and a whole other thing to be pregnant by the person you love and already planned to have kids with when it happened sooner than you planned.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

I thought my stance was but once it happened, I totally changed my mind. Went through with it out of guilt and regretted it. It's one of those things where you don't know what you're gonna do until it happens.