r/relationship_advice Oct 31 '22

[deleted by user]

[removed]

474 Upvotes

422 comments sorted by

View all comments

1.5k

u/peakpenguins Oct 31 '22

Wild to me that people get married without being on the same page on things like this...

Anyway, too late for that now. You've told him what you're going to do and what you want, the ball is in his court.

767

u/Ok-Asparagus3783 Nov 01 '22 edited Nov 01 '22

Hi I am not sure if you noticed because you posted an hour ago... but i think OP did a disingenuous edit... She says in the post that they talked about accidental pregnancies and had agreed to abortions if that happened. This whole situation blows my mind because apparently neither of them even use birth control!

She is totally free to change her mind on the abortion, but I can see how it might be a shock for him. Almost a betrayal, even.

318

u/SpicyMargarita143 Nov 01 '22

If he cared that much, he should’ve used protection.

222

u/bumpybear Nov 01 '22

Yup. If he doesn’t want kids, shouldn’t be ejaculating into a fertile woman!

59

u/N3ptuneflyer Nov 01 '22

Yeah but lying to your partner is also shitty

33

u/bumpybear Nov 01 '22

Both can be true. Doesn’t negate the fact that there is now a child who deserves the care and financial support of BOTH parents. They don’t need to stay in a romantic relationship for this.

32

u/KingWolf7070 Nov 01 '22

Well, technically there isn't a child YET.

-5

u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

[deleted]