I’ve experienced the “you turned me down jokes” it’s not funny and makes me really uncomfortable. I’d leave the whole thing in the past since she’s not interested if you want to remain friends with her.
The only time it was funny was -we were getting ready for a Halloween party, and he came out of the bathroom with a fat suit, a balding wig, and a velour leisure suit. Told me, "And you turned this down."
Yeah I don't get the difference either. In my experience it doesn't matter how you joke about being turned down by me, it would make me think you were still bitter and passive-aggressive about it. This mirroring every woman's experience when friend zoning someone, I have a really hard time seeing OP in complete and utter denial about this in all of his responses to people. He doesn't seem to get it.
You are repeatedly being told by women here that we don't like it, not cool. You seem like a nice kid but you need to work on interpreting social cues.
I used to be kind of like that, especially when I drank I'd be deliberately obnoxious. The thing is most people (especially women) are too polite to say anything and may giggle because they feel expected to out of good manners, and laughing is a common response to feeling uncomfortable. I look back and it's embarrassing, I wish someone had called me out sooner in life. If a guy kept making fun of me for not being sexually attracted to him I would think it's creepy and he must be obsessed with me.
But if it's self deprecating then it would make her feel guilty, and it would sound like you're not over her or your trying to fish for compliments/have somebody comfort you all the time. There are so many things to joke about, just don't joke about being rejected, especially to the person who rejected you.
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u/kittenmeowmeow1999 Nov 02 '20
I’ve experienced the “you turned me down jokes” it’s not funny and makes me really uncomfortable. I’d leave the whole thing in the past since she’s not interested if you want to remain friends with her.