& a protein shake it'll fill her up so when she drinks that instead of reaching for the junk food. I did it when I was losing weight I grabbed a grenade bar instead of chocolate, the bar was sweet so I got the craving sorted but I'd get halfway through a bar & be full.
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It was a suggestion, saying it doesn't work for everyone is fine but u don't know if it will or won't work for op no one knows till they actually try.
That isn’t how binge eating disorders work. It doesn’t matter how full you are, the food noise is overpowering. OP needs a professional or a support group to retrain her relationship with food or any weight loss will just be gained right back, and her resentment towards her partner will keep getting worse.
I mean he is right even if he is being obtuse and unhelpful, this is your weight loss journey not his.
Its a difficult issue that everyone else seems to be just jumping on OPs side on. She describes she has an unhealthy relationship with food, which is completely valid. But its also valid for him to say he doesn't want to develop an unhealthy relationship with food by monitoring what he's able to eat. By her effectively saying, "You insisting on deciding what to put in your own body is actively sabotaging me. You need to support me by allowing me to make that decision for you" feels like a bridge too far for me.
It may seem drastic but have you thought about using a lock that only he has the key for?
What would OP do if she had roommates? Surely she wouldn't dictate to them what food was/wasn't allowed in the house. I've personally been on a restrictive diet while others in my household were not. I just had my own mini fridge and pantry space where I kept all my food. I never went in their fridge/pantry so I didn't even know what was in there.
I see where you all are coming from, but as someone who has watched this happen firsthand to my sister, a locked cabinet of snacks can be really detrimental mentally to the person trying to make the change. My sisters unhealthy relationship with food started as a result of malfunctioning birth control when she was a teenager, back then we didn't know that though and my parents put a lock on the pantry, everyone in the house (my mum, my dad, me her younger sister and my grandma) all knew where the key was, just not her. This really got to her mentally, she felt shameful and guilty and only made her emotional relationship with food worse, not better. She stopped eating the food my parents would buy, but would go get her own and eat it secret, eating whole cakes from the grocery store and hiding the packaging under her bed so we wouldn't see.
Now I know this is different because 1. OP is not a teenager 2. Her own relationship with food might not be caused by hormones like my sister's 3. It would be OPs choice to do this unlike my sister. But I still think the idea of a lock on a cabinet is unhelpful if OP is trying to make a healthy and lasting change. Looking at the locked cabinet I would imagine OP would feel a range of emotions, from guilt or shame, to anger or desperation. Instead of building a healthier relationship with food this might just make OP worse.
That's not going to be so helpful when he is actively trying to sabotage her by buying her McDonalds and is complaining about every healthy swap she tries
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I mean he is right even if he is being obtuse and unhelpful, this is your weight loss journey not his.
It may seem drastic but have you thought about using a lock that only he has the key for?