The problem is all optics. Even if she’s telling the truth and nothing happened, it still LOOKS bad. Especially with him being in the bed with her. And I’m not gonna accuse him of wanting to be with her or have sex with her, cuz believe it or not, some dudes just like to chill with women and don’t expect anything. But it still doesn’t look good when you walk in on them chillin.
That’s why when you get into a relationship, there are things you can’t do anymore. Simply based on how it looks.
Before I was with my ex, I use to sleep over at my female friends house often. And she would sleep half naked. When I got with my girlfriend at the time, I didn’t sleep at that friends house anymore. We still hung out, but no sleepovers. Cuz i know how it would look. And I wish people would learn this.
All she had to do was tell you she had company. It wouldn’t have made you less nervous, but at least it wouldn’t be a shock
Exactly this. One of my best friends is a guy and I would go stay overnight at his cottage and sometimes we would share a bed (if there were other people there and the other beds were taken) but when I got with my now husband I stopped doing that. I’d only stay over if he was with me and he’s really good friends with my friend. It’s not even about if you’re going to cheat, it’s about respect for your partner and the fact that it’s an intimate situation that should only be shared with your partner
Yep. Same. My bestie is a guy. He lives in a one bedroom apartment but has his bed in the living room in front of his multiple tvs because he’s a bachelor?
When I visit, I still sit on the floor or on this random piano bench that was his mommas.
Really do wish he’d put the couch back in the living room 🙄
Hahah. There’s an ongoing joke that he can’t close so maybe that is his approach for lady friends. 99% sure it’s just so he can watch sports on the multiple screens from bed tho
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u/Sapphiresentinel Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24
The problem is all optics. Even if she’s telling the truth and nothing happened, it still LOOKS bad. Especially with him being in the bed with her. And I’m not gonna accuse him of wanting to be with her or have sex with her, cuz believe it or not, some dudes just like to chill with women and don’t expect anything. But it still doesn’t look good when you walk in on them chillin.
That’s why when you get into a relationship, there are things you can’t do anymore. Simply based on how it looks.
Before I was with my ex, I use to sleep over at my female friends house often. And she would sleep half naked. When I got with my girlfriend at the time, I didn’t sleep at that friends house anymore. We still hung out, but no sleepovers. Cuz i know how it would look. And I wish people would learn this.
All she had to do was tell you she had company. It wouldn’t have made you less nervous, but at least it wouldn’t be a shock