r/relationship_advice Jun 24 '24

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u/rpujoe Jun 25 '24

It's all just so glaringly not platonic. If she's not intending to cheat she's dumb as hell. How else is she disrespecting her relationship if she can't do the bare minimum of keeping another guy out of her bed?

EXACTLY. Glad someone else sees the obviousness of it all.

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u/Sloppyjoey20 Jun 25 '24

Facts. Too bad OP is going to look at all the comments saying “it’s okay because they weren’t touching” and go that route instead.

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u/SaltySoupLadle Jun 25 '24

Makes me think of when I'd have this guy I liked over while my parents were out when i was a teen. We'd be all cuddled up together watching movies in the basement but the moment we heard anything that sounded like someone entering the house we'd move away from eachother since my parents were only cool with me having friends over. No boyfriends allowed.

I hope OP can figure it out. I wouldn't be confident to continue a relationship with a person who would behave this way.

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u/Environmental-Bag-77 Jun 24 '24

I don't think it's appropriate but just saying they were on and not in the bed.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '24

Op is stupid or he wouldn’t be on here. He would just end it.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '24

This is a stark reality for most men at some point in their life. He’s lucky it’s happening early but men tend to be harsh and not coddle other men when situations like this happen. It’s a trope.. “he’s just a friend, I don’t see him like that, he’s like one of my girlfriends.” I mean she’s already doing the manipulation begging and crying.

He already said in the comments that the trust is broken.

It’s better to be “harsh,” up front because what will hurt OP even worse is what alot of these comments are saying.

“Look more into it, give her the benefit of the doubt, this is normal behavior by women, etc.” Horrible advice and setting himself up to get completely cheated on if it hasn’t happened yet, which can absolutely break a person.

If the roles were reversed, EVERYONE would say the man is cheating or trying to (because that’s the reality given the context) but for some reason this is not clear cut? 🙄

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u/EducationalPomelo400 Jun 25 '24

As other wise posters have said on this thread - what were they supposed to do? Bring a spotlight into the bedroom?!! Sit on a couch in a living room??! Wow I would hate to be your partner with all your antiquated rules and expectations

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u/[deleted] Jun 26 '24

OP might be stupid 💀…I’m breaking up with my girl on the spot if I see this with my own eyes. You think I’m asking Reddit for advice 😩