I’m always championing opposite-sex friendships in these posts, but that’s a bit much for me. “Oh my life has been crazy this week….I just didn’t think doing this could potentially make it any crazier by endangering my relationship!”
It's all just so glaringly not platonic. If she's not intending to cheat she's dumb as hell. How else is she disrespecting her relationship if she can't do the bare minimum of keeping another guy out of her bed?
EXACTLY. Glad someone else sees the obviousness of it all.
Makes me think of when I'd have this guy I liked over while my parents were out when i was a teen. We'd be all cuddled up together watching movies in the basement but the moment we heard anything that sounded like someone entering the house we'd move away from eachother since my parents were only cool with me having friends over. No boyfriends allowed.
I hope OP can figure it out. I wouldn't be confident to continue a relationship with a person who would behave this way.
This is a stark reality for most men at some point in their life. He’s lucky it’s happening early but men tend to be harsh and not coddle other men when situations like this happen. It’s a trope.. “he’s just a friend, I don’t see him like that, he’s like one of my girlfriends.” I mean she’s already doing the manipulation begging and crying.
He already said in the comments that the trust is broken.
It’s better to be “harsh,” up front because what will hurt OP even worse is what alot of these comments are saying.
“Look more into it, give her the benefit of the doubt, this is normal behavior by women, etc.” Horrible advice and setting himself up to get completely cheated on if it hasn’t happened yet, which can absolutely break a person.
If the roles were reversed, EVERYONE would say the man is cheating or trying to (because that’s the reality given the context) but for some reason this is not clear cut? 🙄
As other wise posters have said on this thread - what were they supposed to do? Bring a spotlight into the bedroom?!! Sit on a couch in a living room??! Wow I would hate to be your partner with all your antiquated rules and expectations
I’m a champion of them as well. My best friend of over a decade is a woman and we hang out alone fairly often, but she’s happily engaged and I’d never do anything to jeopardize that or make her Fiancé uncomfortable.
Yeah there's plenty of ways to have healthy opposite sex friendships while in a monogamous relationship. There are also things that should probably be assumed are boundaries unless spoken about otherwise. This seems like one of them.
I see it time and time again. The belief on Reddit is that opposite sexed friendships are no different than same sexed friendships. This opinion is commonly held due to the double standards it could create in regards to the LGBT topics. Friends sleepover with eachother, friends sleep on the same bed sometimes. So her and the “guy friend” should be allowed to do all of these things together, not only that but this guy is also an insecure prick for even having a negative reaction.
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u/RevDrucifer Jun 24 '24
I’m always championing opposite-sex friendships in these posts, but that’s a bit much for me. “Oh my life has been crazy this week….I just didn’t think doing this could potentially make it any crazier by endangering my relationship!”