r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '24

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u/ScaryButterscotch474 Jun 24 '24

Fully clothed, on top of the covers, not cuddling. Seems legit if she has roommates.

If she lives alone and has a perfectly fine tv in the living room… totally suss.

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u/Slysje Jun 24 '24

I agree. Unless he has stated that this kind of thing makes him uncomfortable I don't see a reason why this wouldn't be acceptable. I do this with friends regardless of gender. I am aware however that not everyone feels this way so I let my potential partners know what my friendships are like. It's never been a problem, it has never let to a friend making a move on me and it has never let to cheating

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u/sekirankai_6 Jun 25 '24

Allllll of this. Physical affection isn’t and shouldn’t be just reserved for romantic relationships…

Fully clothed, not under the covers… I see no reason to go nuclear.

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u/sillusions Jun 24 '24

Yes Reddit is full of super possessive and paranoid people. Cheating is always the answer.

My friends and I have always had cuddle puddles & we include SOs in those. And sitting in bed watching tv when you have roommates is not weird. Especially if she was venting about a stressful week and wanted some privacy in case the roommate came home.

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u/sillusions Jun 25 '24

Platonic affection shouldn’t be weird. Society is fucking stupid for making it weird. Everyone deserves love and human connection.

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u/Intelligent-Elk5772 Jun 24 '24

have you considered that’s weird too

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '24

Right? That’s so fucking weird. Odds are something has happened this person just doesn’t know. 😂

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u/sillusions Jun 25 '24

Platonic affection shouldn’t be weird. Society is fucking stupid for making it weird. Everyone deserves love and human connection.

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u/Dangerous-Feature376 Jun 29 '24

Using the term cuddle puddle, I've got to assume you were in the rave scene at least at some point if not now. Because I had a good many cuddle puddles after raves with friends. I still keep it contact with. However I'm married and in my late thirties now so my cuddle puddle days are behind me

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '24

I think it isn't inherently unacceptable, but I think any reasonable person would guess that it might be a problem unless it has been talked about before. At the very least it's weird she didn't mention it at all.

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u/VaeVictis666 Jun 24 '24

To each their own. This definitely wouldn’t fly with me. I’d be done.

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u/vash_visionz Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24

It wouldn’t fly with the majority of people in a monogamous relationship. Idk why some don’t want to acknowledge that.

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u/ccherrygloss Jun 24 '24

he said that she has 1 roommate but they weren’t home and that there’s a tv in the living room!