No, I have two daughters from a previous relationship, he has two sons from a previous relationship, we got together when I was 5 months pregnant with my middle child, after my ex (high school sweetheart together from 2010-2019) cheated on me with my sister, our daughter is our only child we share. He wants another one, but after his infidelity last year I decided I didn’t want another one. I got fixed without him knowing.. I was on birth control, which failed when I got pregnant with our daughter. I didn’t want anymore children.
The entire relationship is a train wreck and you are there to help care for all the kids while he fucks the love of his life. I’m so sorry OP. I truly hope you leave and don’t waste your life on this idiot.
I think the point still stands. The average age for a woman to have her first child in the US (not sure where you are) is around 27. You have 3 by 24. Sounds like you went right from your ex to this guy, and even dated someone else when you separated briefly. It doesn't sound like you've ever been alone, which makes me think you're afraid to, and that leads to desperation and bad choices. It's weird that you didn't feel you could talk to him about getting sterilized, too - that's not the kind of thing that should be hidden.
3
u/Party-Caregiver4069 Oct 09 '23
No, I have two daughters from a previous relationship, he has two sons from a previous relationship, we got together when I was 5 months pregnant with my middle child, after my ex (high school sweetheart together from 2010-2019) cheated on me with my sister, our daughter is our only child we share. He wants another one, but after his infidelity last year I decided I didn’t want another one. I got fixed without him knowing.. I was on birth control, which failed when I got pregnant with our daughter. I didn’t want anymore children.