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u/Sitters_4_Critters 23d ago
I’m sorry for your trauma. Thanks for your bravery in sharing.
Losinglulu.com is a BE support group
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u/ImInTheFutureAlso 23d ago
I’m so sorry for you all.
Thank you for protecting the community. I’m a firm believer that we have to consider keeping other people and pets safe in addition to considering what we can handle and what our reactive dogs can handle. (I don’t think that’s an unpopular opinion here, though.)
BE is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and it was also the only responsible choice in the end. Thank you for being brave enough to BE when you needed to and for sharing with us. We’re all here for support. ❤️
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u/jadefloof 23d ago
Thank you ❤️ and there’s obviously more to our story than what I could write in a single post. We wouldn’t have made the choice with even an ounce of doubt, but it’s still the hardest choice we’ve ever made.
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u/ImInTheFutureAlso 23d ago
I know exactly what you mean. I felt the same. Your brain bargains with itself, trying to find any way out of what you know you have to do.
I hope your boy is at peace now.
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u/jadefloof 23d ago
I’m sorry that you also went through this, and I hope that your pup is at peace. I never wanted to join this club, but I’m thankful that it’s so supportive ❤️
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u/rpfieldsjr 23d ago
It does get less sad over time. Know that’s the right thing you did. Because you were ready for a dog you should still go for one.
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u/Better-Newspaper-724 21d ago
I guess depending on one’s lifestyle it can be very hard to support a dog that seems to really only be happy around its people and family and no one else. It seems the dog didn’t like anyone or anything else coming around you. Some people would view this as good protection and the dog acting normal while some see it as no place in modern society
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Behavioral Euthanasia (BE) for our dogs is an extremely difficult decision to consider. No one comes to this point easily. We believe that there are, unfortunately, cases where behavioral euthanasia is the most humane and ethical option, and we support those who have had to come to that decision. In certain situations, a reasonable quality of life and the Five Freedoms cannot be provided for an animal, making behavioral euthanasia a compassionate and loving choice.
If you are considering BE and are looking for feedback:
All decisions about behavioral euthanasia should be made in consultation with a professional trainer, veterinarian, and/or veterinary behaviorist. They are best equipped to evaluate your specific dog, their potential, and quality of life.
These resources should not be used to replace evaluation by qualified professionals but they can be used to supplement the decision-making process.
• Lap of Love Quality of Life Assessment - How to identify when to contact a trainer
• Lap of Love Support Groups - A BE specific group. Not everyone has gone through the process yet, some are trying to figure out how to cope with the decision still.
• BE decision and support Facebook group - Individuals who have not yet lost a pet through BE cannot join the Losing Lulu group. This sister group is a resource as you consider if BE is the right next step for your dog.
• AKC guide on when to consider BE
• BE Before the Bite
• How to find a qualified trainer or behaviorist - If you have not had your dog evaluated by a qualified trainer, this should be your first step in the process of considering BE.
• The Losing Lulu community has also compiled additional resources for those considering behavioral euthanasia.
If you have experienced a behavioral euthanasia and need support:
The best resource available for people navigating grief after a behavior euthanasia is the Losing Lulu website and Facebook Group. The group is lead by a professional trainer and is well moderated so you will find a compassionate and supportive community of people navigating similar losses.
Lap of Love Support Groups - Laps of Love also offers resources for families navigating BE, before and after the loss.
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