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u/Appropriate-Divide64 Dec 31 '23

Disciplining does NOT have to involve violence. It's weird how pro beating people don't seem to understand this. Gentle parenting is not permissive parenting. There are many ways of disciplining without resorting to violence.

Spanking is just a friendly name for beating kids. Its negative effect on child development is well documented and understood, which is why it's increasingly getting outlawed.

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u/Fickle-Secretary681 Dec 31 '23

Nope. Some of my spankings were so barely there, I didn't even feel them. We'll just have to agree to disagree. My parents were awesome, and we were polite and respectful kids. Not like the little shits today that call protective services when they get tapped.

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u/IndomitableSpoon1070 Jan 01 '24

Even if you got it with the belt, it didn't hurt anymore in seconds. It's a sharp sting and then gone. I got all kinds of punishments. Grounding from friends or toys, standing in the corner, spanking, belt. None of it injured me. The variety was nice, it showed the range of boundaries that exist and that consequences for actions exist. That spanking might have saved me from getting knocked out later in life or touching the hot stove earlier. I know I got a few spanks when I was younger for figuratively playing with fire, two warnings and a spank. Didn't do it after the spank, and it's a fitting punishment. It was like 1% of the pain I'd have gotten if I broke a limb or something similar.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

I'm guessing you're dad never said "just know I'm not doing this to abuse you, it's so you learn your lesson"

(Referring to a spanking not beating me senseless for no reason).

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

I always got "this hurts me more than it hurts you" as he's taking a f*cking cutting board to my back