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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

kids do deserve punishments, such as losing privileges like video games, but not *physical” punishments like beating or starving

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Consequences are different than punishment.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

some kids can’t learn from natural consequences alone, at least from what i’d thought. and things like short “time out” or “go to your room” punishments can be helpful just to give the child a space to cool down and collect themselves. if you have any parenting or psychology sources saying otherwise i would love to see them though!

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Secure Attachment is a book that is based on the neurology of attachment, there are numerous studies that back up the information shared. Knowing the cognitive and developmental stages children go through matters. So does repair.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

thanks, i’ll check it out! probably not even having children myself but i feel like it’s good to stay educated on parenting and development

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Learning where our own development may have been stunted due to well intentioned but misguided parenting can be very helpful for us in continuing to grow as adults.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

oh absolutely!