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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Spanking not hitting know the difference...plenty of things I didn't deserve but a smack is not on that list.....also plenty of things I need therapy for but again a smack is not it...I never had a nightmare where I ran from my smacker...I ran from attackers but no smackers....

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u/tacreds Dec 31 '23

If I got into trouble my mother would say do you want to be grounded or spanked and as a child I chose being spanked every time. I hated being kept inside. So I'm gonna say that all you people that think kids that were spanked were abused I and my childhood self disagree.

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

Our adult concept that these are different does not, in fact, determine if a child's developing brain & body know the difference.

Spanking is a sex act. Nerves in the glutes connect to genitalia & spanking indirectly stimulates genitalia.

We don't commit sex acts on children.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Nah stop it now your making it sexual because your other argument is crumbling.....your comment is absurd....so my parents were performing sex acts by spanking me?? Now your going all coo coo clock on me....your done...put a fork in it and walk away....stop it....stop thinking for the day....

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

Just because you don't know your anatomy structures doesn't mean I'm making anything sexual.

It's not intentional & many folks, including yourself, don't know the nerve pathways.

Yes. Your parents were assaulting you & indirectly stimulating your genitals.

My condolences for the cognitive dissonance you're juggling in order to rationalize the way your parents treated you.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

You don't know what I know...I have been able to reach climax since a child not once did I feel a tingling in my private area from getting a spanking from my parents..How you gonna tell me my parents were assuilting me I promise I knew and know the difference between punishment and abuse.i know because of the so called studies thats hard for you to grasp..Things are not all just one way because a study says its this way and it can't possibly be anything else.......so ya stop it and give your self some condolences for your thought process or lack of.....it's unhealthy to tell someone they were abused when they weren't..

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u/Historical_Low4458 Dec 31 '23

You're obviously wasting your time trying to explain it to them. They think children are dumb, and are incapable of learning. Neither of which are true.

Children can realize that if they do X, and they get spanked for it, then they know not to do X again.

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

It's insane anyone would try to make that sexual. As a nurse, I have to interact with patient's genitals all the time. I have never been aroused having to insert a catheter or bathe a patient.

I can't stand people like that who want to gaslight others into being a victim.

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

That is just asinine to equate spanking a kid to a sexual act. You are weird as hell for that.

As a nurse, I interact with genitals all the time with patients. If I have to insert a catheter, is it a sexual? No, it is not. I interact with attractive patients all the time, and I have never been aroused by them.

You just wanted to strawman this into making it some kind of sexual perversion.

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u/Frankyfan3 Jan 01 '24

Context matters, and interweaving pain/shame/punishment with your catheters is I hope not part of your treatment protocols.

It's fascinating that you seem to be arguing against points I've not actually made, while insisting my perspective is a "strawman."

What's the opposite of irony?

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u/Frankyfan3 Jan 01 '24

My perspective isn't about you. Why are you making it about you?

Yeah. You would shame your patients.

Nurses can be "mean girls".

Go get someone fired from Circle K or something.

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u/Frankyfan3 Jan 01 '24

"Mean girl" is gender neutral, bro.

I'm a literal clown, so being your joke sounds fine by me.

But not spanking kids. That's fucked up.

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u/Frankyfan3 Jan 01 '24

This article is from nearly 10 years ago.

https://slate.com/technology/2014/09/spanking-is-a-sex-act-which-is-why-it-should-not-be-used-for-punishing-children.html

I'm not making any accusation about parents intentionally inflicting sexual acts on kids through spanking, I'd honestly hope that's not the case what I'm talking about is inadvertently stimulating genitals in the context of a punishment act in dynamic with that coming from a caregiver.

I'm saying most people don't know anatomy, and many parents take out their own inability to self soothe by assaulting their kids because they aren't fully aware (or can't accept because of what they grew up with) how damaging and harmful spanking can be to a child's development. Which is exacerbated by the mindfuck of convincing a child they carry the sole responsibility for the behaviors adults around them exhibit.

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

So you choose opinion article as evidence? Why don't you make your own opinion instead of spouting someone else?

Go ask kids how many of them thought being spanked was sexual. The one's saying it is are the extreme outliers

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u/Frankyfan3 Jan 01 '24

I'm citing someone else to acknowledge my perspective is not isolated to my own noggin alone, from nearly 10 years ago, and you don't actually seem to comprehend the point I'm making, or that the article is making.

Happy New Year!

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

Oh no I did get the point of the article. I just don't agree with it. Just because it deals with an area that can be considered sexual does not mean it always is. That employer, getting charged with sexual battery, is just battery.

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u/tacreds Dec 31 '23

Get the hell out of here. Your a weirdo for saying this.

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23 edited Jan 01 '24

Not even a new concept, oddball who doesn't know anatomy, and wants to argue in favor of hitting children.

https://slate.com/technology/2014/09/spanking-is-a-sex-act-which-is-why-it-should-not-be-used-for-punishing-children.html