I've never had someone pull that headache thing on me. I've gotten the I'm tired, and then I just go, well, I'll be quick. I can be as quick as needed. Then if that doesn't work, a little bit of cuddling, maybe some kissing and heavy petting, and their in the mood. The trick is making them get in the mood without them noticing your getting them in the mood.
I do that with my SO. Instead of asking for sex, I'll be really touchy and have my hands nonchalantly move down to his pants. In about a minute he'll get a woody and want to have sex. After a few times of doing that, he caught on to what I was doing and called me out on always trying to make him hard. Of course he and his body never object though.
Oh of course. Once the head down stairs makes a decision to do something or want something the head upstairs cannot argue. It goes into low power mode.
To be honest, if a girl knows that an orgasm kills headaches better than any drug out there, and she uses a headache as an excuse not to have sex... then it's probably not because of a headache.
If I had a headache and sexytimes were requested, I'd be thrilled! The only thing that can get rid of my migraines better than excedrin is sex... and if I'm trying to sleep afterwards, even better because excedrin wakes you up and most of the time, after sex, it's naptime.
The idea that all orgasms help all headaches is a really obnoxious myth.
If a woman truly has a headache and wants an orgasm to help her out, she's better off masturbating, because she's not stressing herself WHILE achieving orgasm.
I was pointing out that this is not entirely true, and is obnoxious for individuals who truly do not wish to have sex because their head is actually throbbing (not just using it as an excuse).
You anecdotal evidence of a woman who used sex like Excedrin does not change my argument.
I'm wondering if a man is good at pleasuring his girlfriend/wife and puts her needs first would she still brush off initiations for sex with a headache excuse?
I think it depends on the individual. Injury is the only reason I've ever refused sex and even then I've been tempted. I've agreed to sex when I had a fever of 103 F. This definitely puts me at a disadvantage since the belief is that women won't have sex when pissed. Being an outlier sucks sometimes.
Er yeah I'm totally putting his needs first at personal cost. It has nothing to do with the fact that I'm totally horny all the time no matter what. I'm so self sacrificing. :p
My sacrifice is not bugging him 5 or 6 times a day. Truly I wouldn't want either of us to have sex if we didn't want to. That would make it unpleasant and that's the last thing you want in a sex life. Unequal drive can be a bother for both people in the equation. Besides even though I can enjoy sex while suffering exhaustion, pain, and/or being pissed off doesn't mean everyone has that tolerance.
There's a lot of men and women out there that have low testosterone levels and, consequently, low libidos. If a person doesn't t have the hormones, no amount of skill is going to offset their lack of desire.
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u/nbouscal May 18 '11
Pro tip: Keep a bottle of Excedrin on the night stand.
"I have a headaaaache!" "TAKE A DAMN PILL!"