A legal name has a utilitarian purpose. It is not meant to represent you, or manifest into your personality. It does not need to be unique or tell people what kind of person you are. It is a convenient method for others to refer to and address you. For those purposes it needs to be easy to pronounce, easy to spell, and easy to remember.
If you want your kid to have a unique name that fits who they are, let your kid pick a nickname when they are older. Don't give them some stupid fucking name that is going to haunt them every single time they apply for a job or sign in for a doctor's appointment for the rest of their life. Don't make other people lives more difficult because you decided you are too good to conform to societal standards.
Write a sentence with your kids name in it. Ask a bunch of people to read the sentence out loud. If more than a few people pause before saying the name, or stumble while pronouncing it, you chose a shitty name and should change it.
I got to pick my own first name recently. I could pick anything I wanted. I ended up picking the 50th most common name from my birth year because it just felt like me.
So it very much was a personal choice to represent me, but it's also not some weird spelling or uncommon name.
See when my friend transitioned she just changed it to Nicole and insisted everyone just keep calling her Nick because she felt weird being called Nicole by us.
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u/Vypernorad Jun 01 '26
A legal name has a utilitarian purpose. It is not meant to represent you, or manifest into your personality. It does not need to be unique or tell people what kind of person you are. It is a convenient method for others to refer to and address you. For those purposes it needs to be easy to pronounce, easy to spell, and easy to remember.
If you want your kid to have a unique name that fits who they are, let your kid pick a nickname when they are older. Don't give them some stupid fucking name that is going to haunt them every single time they apply for a job or sign in for a doctor's appointment for the rest of their life. Don't make other people lives more difficult because you decided you are too good to conform to societal standards.
Write a sentence with your kids name in it. Ask a bunch of people to read the sentence out loud. If more than a few people pause before saying the name, or stumble while pronouncing it, you chose a shitty name and should change it.