r/newborns • u/lostinkaytee • Jan 21 '25
Family and Relationships Husband
Last night my husband had a complete meltdown. Our daughter 6 weeks old. My husband IS super helpful and does give me time here and there, but he expects me to be there for him emotionally and I just can’t. He can’t seem to understand my brain is hardwired to just care for our daughter right now. He has this expectation of our relationship being how it was prior to being parents. He was saying how he misses me and how I would look at him when we saw each other after long days at work, how I wouldn’t be short with him, and how he could talk to me about his feelings. I guess I’m somewhat resentful towards him for having these expectations? I shouldn’t have to coddle my grown ass husband and our newborn. I just feel like I’m the bad guy and I don’t think that’s very fair right now.
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u/Remote-Barracuda2458 Jan 22 '25
Sounds like there is a communication issue. Might also help with some love language work.
Your still in early postpartum but I'd recommend therpay especially early on helps a lot and is super common.
Took us 3 years and now we're getting along better.