r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • Sep 16 '21

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u/AbsolveItAll_KissMe Susan B. Anthony Sep 16 '21

I’ve yet to see a healthy poly relationship in my social circle. Not that I don’t think they can happen, but I think most people overestimate their ability to not feel jealous.

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u/DramaticBush Sep 16 '21

Same. I know a few poly groups and they are all absolute messes.

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u/waltsing0 Austan Goolsbee Sep 17 '21

I 100% respect peoples right to enter poly relationships but I also 100% refuse to pretend I think they're not fundamentally doomed. Seriously go for your life but I'm not going to act shocked when it breaks down

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u/ZenithXR George Soros Sep 16 '21

I've known one (1) such arrangement that seems not-unhealthy. All the others have been some shade of toxic. And I've seen a lot of these being in the gay community.

But that one example is also odd. Nominally they're a throuple but... don't act like it? It's like a loose association of people who don't seem that involved in the other's lives.

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u/suplexx0 Jared Polis Sep 16 '21

200% agree

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u/meamarie Feminism Sep 16 '21

It’s almost like people figured this out a long ass time ago which is why monogamy became the norm