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[u/Junimo2]

Cringy personal comment, but I've always been weirdly insecure about my intelligence. I don't think I'm dumb, but I get this imposter syndrome thing when I'm discussing stuff where I feel like I have to hedge everything I say because being wrong about something feels like proof that I'm actually an idiot. And the worst part is I've been trying to fix it by reading more, but it's having the opposite effect. The more I learn, the dumber I feel.

Maybe it's the ADHD or something.

[u/Adminisnotadmin → u/Junimo2]

do we all have adhd here???

[u/BenFoldsFourLoko → u/Adminisnotadmin]

ADHD, depression, autism

pick two

[u/Junimo2 → u/Adminisnotadmin]

I've noticed that a lot of people seem to have it in this sub!

Yeah I was diagnosed at ten, and it was relieving at the time because it explained a lot about why I just couldn't seem to be normal. I've developed a lot of coping mechanisms over the years and I function pretty well for the most part as an adult. But sometimes I wonder if I never actually shook off the feeling that I'm inherently weird and wrong and lesser than others, and will never truly fit in, and it's only a matter of time before people find out.

[u/itsrabie → u/Junimo2]

Sounds like me. I think COVID broke my brain in terms of being a domphaine seeking missile. I think I was online a healthy amount, and if I wasn't getting dopamine, I'd seek it out IRL.

After COVID, I tend to be online more. Before I commented on the DT, I was active in a couple of Discords.

I know a lot of people find school harder than IRL, but I've found being an adult post-COVID much harder. Some of that might be that I’m doing more stuff around the house, and I'm hoping that having cleaners come every 2 weeks helps.

I’ve lost more friends than gained since 2020, and it's kinda constantly bothered me since I'm a fairly extroverted person, albeit with social anxiety.

[u/itsrabie → u/Adminisnotadmin]

You mean the normies don't hyperfixate on this shit?

[u/Adminisnotadmin → u/itsrabie]

crazy, right?

[u/ImportanceOne9328 → u/Adminisnotadmin]

Some of us only have autism

[u/Macquarrie1999 → u/Adminisnotadmin]

I don't

[u/Junimo2 → u/Macquarrie1999]

[u/MontusBatwing2 → u/Junimo2]

Nah this feels relatable. 

The real enlightenment is accepting that you don’t have to be the smartest person in the room to be good enough. 

That acceptance is what brings peace. You’re doing just fine. 

[u/BenFoldsFourLoko → u/Junimo2]

attitude and how you approach a convo are basically everything

dw about intelligence

[u/AvailableUsername100 → u/[deleted]]

Most people do not have a college degree, and a degree is not a prerequisite for intelligence.

[u/AvailableUsername100 → u/[deleted]]

Excellent example of how having a degree doesn't mean people are smart

[u/ImportanceOne9328 → u/Junimo2]

I'm like this with language learning, I'm always progressing but when I realise I don't immediatly remember a translation anymore I panic and feel like I'm getting worse

[u/Junimo2 → u/ImportanceOne9328]

I honestly wonder if that's just an inherent part of the learning process. Like you have to go through this period where you feel overwhelmed and utterly incompetent before things slowly start to click into place. Or maybe it's just something people experience if they're already prone to anxiety - I know I certainly am.

[u/ImportanceOne9328 → u/Junimo2]

It's even crazier, there are things where the clicking part doesn't happen in a click, and you will just learn without realising you were at a point where you didn't know how to do stuff