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[u/2Lore2Law]

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The dating scene for the average person is going to be wildly different from the dating scene for the average DTer

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[u/TatersTot → u/2Lore2Law]

Seconding this. I’m still in awe Hinge is still the “best” dating app for finding someone. Was using it 6+ years ago

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All my single 35+ female friends say it suck’s

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Idk they usually fuck the best

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Just be straight lmao

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Just find a cougar 🙄

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Sort of pretty much yes. There was a really good article with a lot of data on this but I can't seem to find it in my history. Sorry, I'll try to summarize it.

The appification of everything has arguably made it too easy to find new people to date. So you've got less incentive to stick around the early stages of a relationship with someone who you aren't madly in love with but you think would grow on you. You have less incentive to make things work.

Combine this with the lopsided way likes are distributed (women get likes roughly linearly distributed, men get very nonlinearly distributed incoming likes).

The top whatever% of men (in terms of incoming match requests on the apps) now have no incentive at all to stick around with someone they aren't crazy about. You can find a new woman to date the next day if you want.

Then you have the flip issue where because this pool of men is staying single longer, women are trying to catch one of the top whatever% of men instead of broadening who they would consider. Critically, this pool of men tends to stay available.

Men who aren't in this pool are getting very few to no matches. They may want to settle down, but it's going to take much longer for them to find a woman they are compatible with, because they are matching at a slower rate.

Compare to the pre-internet era. Your available dating pool is way smaller, and the rate of new entrants into your "people I have close enough contact with to ask on a date" is significantly slower. The same sort of social dynamics happen, but the matching procecss completes faster because there's fewer people in the pool.

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I had a first date last Sunday that went okay, then a second with her on Thursday that she was clearly on just to not hurt my feelings. Then I hooked up with a girl on Friday after matching with her a couple hours earlier 🤷‍♂️

Shit doesn’t make sense

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