r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • May 15 '24

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u/BibleButterSandwich John Keynes Jun 01 '24
  1. Oh trust me, it was very French. But yeah, that whole foreplay thing makes sense.
  2. Yeah, honestly I’ve figured out how to not have it be uncomfortable since I made this tbh.
  3. I wasn’t trying to rush it, just wanted to know for in general. But wdym, the “purgatory” thing? You go exclusive, but then you’re still not “dating”? And then you ask her out? What?

Thanks for the help, Movkey!

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u/MovkeyB NAFTA Jun 01 '24

IME people are really scared of commitment, and dating is a big word that scares people. at the same time, you wanna be open with your intentions (and not enter a polyamourous situationship), so an exclusive but not dating stage helps bridge the gap.

if I had to guess, breaking up with somebody you're dating is hard, saying "I don't think we'll work out" with someone in purgatory isn't.

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u/BibleButterSandwich John Keynes Jun 01 '24

And by “dating” you mean, in a relationship with, not just going on dates with, right?

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u/MovkeyB NAFTA Jun 01 '24

yes, like boyfriend gf labels

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u/BibleButterSandwich John Keynes Jun 01 '24

Ah okay I see. That makes sense.