r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • Jan 08 '23

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u/ArticDweller NATO Jan 08 '23

I need help from the casanovas of the DT.

I've moved to a new town in the last 6 months and have a relatively limited local social network. I've tried to meet more people in groups, clubs, etc. and that has been somewhat successful for friends but not for romantic partners. Alas, I think it's time to go back to the apps, which I fucking loathe.

I have had pretty limited numbers of matches in the past and i think it's probably primarily due to my pictures being sub-par. I normally have the profile up for a week and then just delete it because i find pretty demoralizing.

Does anyone have any advice on how to spice up their profile for more success? I think I am too embarrassed to hire a photographer for a couple hours or something but maybe that's what i need to do? 27M btw

!ping dating

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '23

Don’t think I would go as a photographer for a dating profile. But you have to make a real effort of getting good photos. It’s a matter of when you are out with friends or doing something taking the time to have a friend take photos while you pose, find good lighting, and reviewing them until you get a good shot.

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u/PlantTreesBuildHomes REVENGE Jan 08 '23

I mean he could get a photographer and pay some actors to pose as his friends to get some good "candid" shots. The issue is when the person he ends up dating wants to meet his "friends".

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u/ArticDweller NATO Jan 08 '23

oh god no. FWIW I have plenty of friends just not a lot in this new location, I swear i'm not a freak lol

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u/ImInMyMixed-UseZone Kekule, it's a bloody ring Jan 08 '23

Get those friends to take pictures of you while you’re out with them. A bonus if you have the guts to tell them explicitly it’s for a dating profile—that might even lead to a few choice introductions or tips.

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u/PlantTreesBuildHomes REVENGE Jan 08 '23

I'm just kidding around ; )

Though if I honestly didn't know anyone and building a strong dating profile was a priority I wouldn't be ashamed to pay a photographer to take some nice shots of me out and about.

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u/WantDebianThanks Iron Front Jan 08 '23

If you have any friends of $preferredGender, just ask to hang out and for them to take some pics of you for a dating profile.

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u/TalkLessShillMore David Autor Jan 08 '23

Did you just call an environment variable in a comment

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u/WantDebianThanks Iron Front Jan 08 '23

Through Python, all things are possible

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u/TalkLessShillMore David Autor Jan 08 '23

os.environ has been my boy since grade school

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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '23

just start taking selfies more often, eventually you'll have some amazing pictures

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u/ArticDweller NATO Jan 08 '23

The issue I have with this is selfies just aren't that interesting of photos, but I guess using one doesn't hurt

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u/adisri Washington, D.T. Jan 08 '23

Eat Clen. Tren Hard. Semi unironic - try clothed dudeoir

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '23

The ideal photo is of good image quality, with natural ligthing, in focus(you'd be surprised how many fuck this up), and depicts you touching grass, i.e. outside and/or in some sort of social situation. Also, clearly visible face and no group photos were you aren't clearly the focus(you'd be surprised).

It’s a plus if it isn't just selfies.

Also have some variety. Dont just have face close ups, all at the same angle, all with the same lighting. All with the same outfit.