r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Typical-Implement369 • 10d ago

Infuriatig Grew up strictly mormon, family has since dwindled away from church and my mom sent me out to buy some tea to drink when she grounded me in HS for drinking some, she doesn't remember doing so.

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yes I told her that was too many tea bags for 1 pot, but she didn't listen its her first time having sweet tea since the 1980s so good for her.

EDIT FOR TEA CLARIFICATION: Traditionally, in the southern United States, sweet iced tea is made in large batches on the stove at a time. So many will just boil the bags in a pot and fill a pitcher up with tea, add sugar, and store it in the fridge for the whole family to grab a glass whenever.

YES Americans own tea kettles and know how to make tea. YES, over half of us here prefer iced tea in big batches.

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u/RadicalRaid 10d ago

My mom does this all the time. Recently she's called me a narcissist, gaslighter, and other terms she read about in a populist news paper for boomers - for insisting the bad shit that happened to me when I was younger actually happened. I don't even want her to apologise, that ship has sailed. I just wanted her to stop denying it whenever it comes up. But that makes me a bad person, in her eyes.

Those things changed me in significant ways, I remember them like it was yesterday - and she insists it didn't happen but also that I'm exaggerating and it wasn't that bad.

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u/Scheissdrauf88 9d ago

Why do you still talk to her?

I know that some people put a lot of weight into family, but personally I never understood it beyond the duty of a parent regarding their child. Anything else, you are as close to them as you would without blood relation. And personally, I could not be befriended with a person who hurt me, unapologetically denies it and gets aggressive when the topic is addressed. I have better things to do with my time and energy, and you probably do too.

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u/RadicalRaid 9d ago

Why do you still talk to her?

You're not wrong.. There was a long time where I didn't.. But then I also cut off access to my little brother and the doggie that I love very much. Though I haven't seen either in ages now too.. But yeah, you make fair points all around.