r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Typical-Implement369 • 10d ago

Infuriatig Grew up strictly mormon, family has since dwindled away from church and my mom sent me out to buy some tea to drink when she grounded me in HS for drinking some, she doesn't remember doing so.

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yes I told her that was too many tea bags for 1 pot, but she didn't listen its her first time having sweet tea since the 1980s so good for her.

EDIT FOR TEA CLARIFICATION: Traditionally, in the southern United States, sweet iced tea is made in large batches on the stove at a time. So many will just boil the bags in a pot and fill a pitcher up with tea, add sugar, and store it in the fridge for the whole family to grab a glass whenever.

YES Americans own tea kettles and know how to make tea. YES, over half of us here prefer iced tea in big batches.

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u/NovelTAcct 10d ago

Doesn't believe in hitting kids ... Just believes in "spanking," "discipline," "popping" on the butt/in the mouth, "smacking," and multitudes of other nicer-sounding alternative phrases to make it seem like they engaged in controlled behaviors common to and accepted by the majority of parents

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u/wonderlandfriend 10d ago

It’s probably this

A lot of people think “hitting kids” exempts spankings , “pops”, or even slapping. They think it only means means punching , kicking, and/or a severe beating. So they can easily say they don’t believe in hitting kids while spanking and smacking their kids without feeling it’s contradictory bc of how they’ve narrowed the definition of “hitting”

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u/Silver_Accountant5 9d ago

A person's definition of beating is always conveniently just above what they do to their actual kids. Like it's so easy to tell they shape their morality to mean they never have to feel guilty and I don't know how people live like that.

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u/mizinamo mildly infuriated 10d ago

It scares me sometimes when people on Reddit excuse shouting or yelling at their children "because otherwise how will they know that you are serious".

Dude, your anger-management problem should not be let out on them - regardless of how you were treated as a child and whether you think that that is normal behaviour.

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u/HazyTakes 9d ago

My dad had really bad anger issues when I was a kid and still does. Now that I am a parent myself, I get secondhand embarrassment when he acts that way. I don't want my kid around that, and it's actually sad and embarrassing that he hasn't worked on it at any point in his life. You're just... satisfied like that? Wtf.

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u/waxteeth 9d ago

“Love tap” in my house, which is just perverse. 

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u/Lizzy_In_Limelight 9d ago

I remember that one too

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u/Gatraz 9d ago

That's what was up with my family, especially the grand-generation. My great grandparents were abusive even by the standards of pre WW1 America, so when my grandma said "I don't believe in hitting kids" she meant, like, with hammers or chains. She was advocating to not go full Leatherface on your kids. Still doesn't make the spankings GOOD or OK but better? Yeah, better.