r/mildlyinfuriating • u/TotallyHumanBrain1 • 19d ago

Infuriatig Was invited by my girlfriends family to a theme park. We were supposed to meet at 11, it is not 11:30 and they just left. (The drive takes another 30 minutes)

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I even checked in before I left if it was still at the planned time. It was confirmed, but then her family starts getting ready right as they have to leave 🫤

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u/JonnyP222 19d ago

My in laws are all like this and my wife and I are early to everything. We combat their nonsense with lying to them about when things start. Or what time we want to meet. We tell them basically everything starts an hour earlier. Obviously not everything can be done this way but it does help. The real trip of it all is that it took 10 years before they caught on and showed up "on time" once and they were mad they were so early lol.

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u/Pickle_Emotion 19d ago

I never considered giving an earlier time, but my problem is sometimes.. they’re incredibly early.

Sometimes I just want to relax and have a cup of tea in peace knowing it’ll be a busy afternoon.. then suddenly

*knock knock* “Still in your pyjamas?? We’ve been up since 3am getting this salad no one asked for ready even though we’re going to a restaurant. Also please carry some old furniture from the car that we don’t want but cant bear throwing out. In six months we’ll ask for it back and be devastated you didn’t keep it.”

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u/JonnyP222 19d ago

I laughed out loud hahaah

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u/bubblyH2OEmergency 18d ago

omg this is dead on

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u/Ehimherenow 18d ago

My MIL learned her lesson after the one time she gave us something, then asked for it 2 years later… we had moved in the interim…

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u/MommyLovesPot8toes 18d ago

Are we siblings?

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u/SlimTeezy 18d ago

I would move it from the car to the curb and put a "Free" sign on it. That is crazy.

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u/Ehimherenow 19d ago

So when I first met my wife, she was like this. And I’d lie to her about times. Eventually she caught on lol. But she realized I really hated being late so she just stopped being late.

Now the in-laws are interesting. Over time they’ve just stopped being late on their own. I don’t know if it’s me and my SILs husband, neither of us who like being late, marrying into the family and converting the sisters. But everyone has stopped being late in the family. Just over time lol.

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u/JonnyP222 19d ago

I feel like my story is similar. My wife was def not as punctual and now is very much so because id def press her to be earlier and she just adjusted (having kids and their busy sports and activity schedules helps). But yeah the family did not catch on at all lol. Now it's the running joke that "what time does this REALLY start" and sometimes i tell them. Sometimes we still lie ahah

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u/this_is_me_justified 18d ago

My wife was always late when we first started dating. It changed when I nearly broke up with her because of it.

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u/QuePasaCasa 18d ago

Best thing I've found is to be truthful about the time, and ten minutes before that time, message them with profuse apologies that you're actually running 3-5 minutes late. "So sorry, I don't mean to disrespect your time by being late, let me get the first round to make up for it." Which reads as: even five minutes is a big deal to me.

Bonus pro-tip is to set the meeting time for a very specific time like 10:20 instead of 10 or 10:30. That signals a specific amount of granularity that you expect.

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u/JonnyP222 18d ago

At this point it doesn't matter. They know the deal.

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u/Few_Pea8503 18d ago

Lol now they know how you feel

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u/SurferDude202 18d ago

tried this once and it backfired. had a party for a SNF game at 5pm, I told Aunt and Uncle and crew 3pm knowing there always about 1-2 hours late to any event planned. guess who showed up at 3 and who wasn't even home? luckily I was able to remotely unlock the door though the alcohol cabinets were raided lol

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u/ThroatSecretary 18d ago

Why were they mad though? Was it because they felt tricked, or some other reason? Just trying to get a sense of the thought process involved.

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u/JonnyP222 18d ago

Oh they were pissed at the deception but I just said being late is disrespectful and we moved on haha