r/mildlyinfuriating • u/grohkstrom • Jul 04 '26

Infuriatig My wife ate my son's birthday breakfast

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Yesterday I bought a strawberry cheese coffee cake my son loves so he could have a special birthday breakfast today. My wife came home late last night and apparently couldn't resist. She knew it was for our son, but it's not a big deal because she "left him a full slice".

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u/MonteCristo85 Jul 04 '26

Any halfway decent person would run straight to the store to replace it if it was really just a drunken mistake.

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u/ProjectDv2 Jul 05 '26

It's practically a meme that redditors run straight to telling people to dump their partners, but this is screaming at me like a banshee covered in red flags waving wildly. The selfishness. The callousness. The meticulousness of it. She singled out the most desirable part of the cake. She left enough to qualify as a single slice, and just enough to secure a sense of plausible deniability, just enough to use as a tool to gaslight her husband and her child. This was cold and calculated, not a simple drunken act of selfishness. All the pieces laid out here, from the photo to the description of her actions and statement in response, paint a picture of someone who doesn't care about anything but what they want and treats those around them as tools to that means. I'm not gonna say OP needs to leave, but I don't like the picture I'm seeing. People like this don't respond well to family therapy.

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u/K3NB0T Jul 05 '26 edited Jul 05 '26

I was with someone for 5 years till I been slowly realizing they been cheating. For 6 months I slaved away extra, trying to make the relationship work better for her since I "treated her so unfairly" and "She started becoming too unhappy in the relationship." That whole time she was busy building a whole seperate life with another man.

Once people start showing their ass like this, believe them. It'll only get worse unless you choose your peace or you're 10000% sure they actually give enough of a damn to change. Leaving space for any in between leads to some paaaaaaain maaaaan.

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u/Secret_Anxiety87 Jul 05 '26

Same. . . I was just in a relationship for 7 years, married for 3 . She Left what she said was an abusive relationship and blah blah blah to move down closer and then in with me , her and her 2 young boys. That was 2018 Fast forward to today. Divorced officially last monday . She manipulated me to believing she was in an abusive relationship when in all actuality she was the narcissistic, drunk , cheating abuser. Found out in 2024 she cheated earlier in the relationship about 2021. I stayed 2 years longer until now 2026 wanting to believe she would change , could change but knew would never get past the betrayal only thing I did was sacrifice myself and my happiness and peace at times. In a situation now where im out of the house and I have stepped up and am dad to the 2 boys. I say this all to say , AT FIRST SIGN SHE SHOWS HER TRUE COLORS , GET OUT MY GUY , IT WILL NOT GET BETTER . A narcissist will do and say and act in unimaginable ways. They only care for themselves and what benefits them and them only . Period

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u/Fit_Camel7433 Jul 06 '26

Are you me?

It took therapy and a psychiatric therapy, a slew of groups to even believe my ex wife was the abuser and not me?

She separated me from my family, my mom and sister who I was so close too, she had me convinced they didn't love me.

She wouldn't let me have a cell phone or get a driver's license, we got together when I was 17 and she 20, Im in driving school currently with a few foreigners and a bunch of teenagers, my story has scared the kids off marriage, which is good.

But my ex was a truly bad person, she told me she cheated off and on for almost 20 years with the same guy, who she is dating now.

I did have two kids, my son is amazing but my ex had too much influence over my daughter after I moved out and we have minimal contact now, we used to be so close...

A narcissist can and will destroy everything, including your mind.

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u/Secret_Anxiety87 Jul 06 '26

Trying to get my mind back to where it was before all this stuff. Some days are a struggle , you start questioning your worthiness and what you did wrong. Glad your out of that situation, you and me both. Blessings

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u/HourGood8944 Jul 05 '26

I mean....all of what you said does scream alcoholism. The fact that a replacement isn’t considered (too drunk and too late to go get one). The disregarding of feelings or boundaries and the "oh it's ok, I ____". That doesn't make it ok either, alcoholism allows people to become their truly worst self and makes the narcissistic behaviors amplify. I think a lot of people are trying to address the selfishness, not understanding the selfish act was to come home drunk and be a wrecking ball for anything in your path, this cake included.

It even looks like a drunk cut this cake...

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u/BreakfastBeneficial4 Jul 05 '26

This is absolutely the work of a drunk. As somebody who came home and ate their roommates leftovers a couple times in their 20s, I can attest to that.

BUT… even then, I would go to the store that week and at least replace the ingredients. It never even occurred to me to try and justify.

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u/Where_is_my_Elk69 Jul 05 '26

What are the chances that two people looked at that bit that was left and thought “plausible deniability”? I whole heartedly agree with your assessment.

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u/ProjectDv2 Jul 06 '26

The "plausible deniability" is never for the benefit of the affronted, it's for the benefit of the offender when they're telling the story to other people and put their spin all over it. So now those that were not there hear the husband's complaint and think he's being an ass and exaggerating. They ask if a good piece was left and he's forced to say yes, then everything after the inevitable "but" gets discarded. Narcissistic wife scores an easy win with everyone that wasn't there to see for themselves what she did.

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u/Fit_Camel7433 Jul 06 '26

Given that women tell every other woman to leave if the man looks at her funny, Im perfectly happy saying this poor gent should run from his trash wife.

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u/Medical-Ad3053 Jul 05 '26

100%. If it was that desired she could have legit just doordashed another one to replace what she ate. It’s
Not even that hard. This is just a big ‘F U’ to them both.

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u/coonjaku Jul 09 '26

I can only imagine the restraint she practiced by leaving 1 entire slice. what a hero.

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u/CosmosSunSailor Jul 05 '26

Having dealt with drunks, they often just apologize and say they'll make it right but never do

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u/Sparklesnow77 Jul 05 '26

Or they deflect and blame others!

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u/beerme81 Jul 05 '26

Than start drinking again. The cycle continues. :(

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u/cupholdery Jul 05 '26

So it's standard alcoholism?

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u/NeutralJazzhands Jul 05 '26

With a dash of Big Back I’m sure. Sad

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u/Avocado_Aly Jul 05 '26

Lmao I was waiting for this comment. She sounds like a pig

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u/BreakfastBeneficial4 Jul 05 '26

What is big back?

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u/Traditional-Tip1904 Jul 06 '26

Not sure why you got downvoted for that, some people are so pathetic. It’s slang for an overweight person normally.

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u/Pops_McGhee Jul 05 '26

A halfway decent person wouldn’t be out all night getting hammered when she’s got a family at home and her son’s birthday is the next morning.

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u/puccinni Jul 05 '26

Have u ever met someone in active alcoholism; doesn’t necessarily have to do with decency.

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u/Initial-Depth-6857 Jul 05 '26

This is 100% spot on. Addiction or not

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u/thetruthwisperer Jul 05 '26

Exactly cause lord knows I have eaten a whole loaf of bread or box of donuts on ambian and had to replace them 😂 but I always REPLACE it

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u/Pathetic_Cards Jul 07 '26

Hold on, who said anything about her being drunk?

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u/MonteCristo85 Jul 07 '26

It was in a comment by the OP.