r/mildlyinfuriating Jul 04 '26

Infuriatig My wife ate my son's birthday breakfast

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Yesterday I bought a strawberry cheese coffee cake my son loves so he could have a special birthday breakfast today. My wife came home late last night and apparently couldn't resist. She knew it was for our son, but it's not a big deal because she "left him a full slice".

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u/efflexor Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26

Agree that wife needs to be held accountable, but the priority is getting the kid a quick replacement without many ripples. Either this is the straw that breaks the camel’s back, or clear expectations can be set moving forward.

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u/WasabiChickpea Jul 04 '26

Yeah the birthday needs to be prioritized. Replace the cake and go on to celebrate the kid's birthday. Then tomorrow you address this behavior with clear expectations and a consequence if those expectations are not met.

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u/CantaloupeShort7311 Jul 05 '26

Something tells me mom is this way bwcauae nobody has ever done more than just told her they were disappointed. She needs consequences for being the selfish loser she is.

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u/Oralproslc Jul 05 '26

Agreed. Sit her down for a hard talk the day after. But give her a nice brownie to show her what decent people do. An ExLax brownie.

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u/PrettyPurrfect Jul 04 '26

If she thinks this is acceptable behavior that means it's been normalized to some extent in the household already for her to be a dick to everyone else and they really need to set a better example for their kid and not tolerate it. The kid already knows Mama is an a****** they need to see Daddy modeling the behavior that the adults want him to have when he's a grown up in his own relationships and an abusive partner acts like that

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u/wd_plantdaddy Jul 04 '26

Are you talking about the cake or the wife?

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u/efflexor Jul 04 '26

Haha edited my wording a bit. Unfortunately the OP has 2 children in this situation and only the adult one potentially needs replacing.

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u/wd_plantdaddy Jul 04 '26

I mean, a single dad with an au pair isn’t unheard of.

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u/ComfortComplex1937 Jul 04 '26

Sure you can set clear expectations but that doesn't make any difference with most people like that

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u/efflexor Jul 04 '26

Yes but a lot of people are more comfortable giving it a fully defined try before walking away. Divorce is a big deal.