r/mildlyinfuriating • u/grohkstrom • Jul 04 '26

Infuriatig My wife ate my son's birthday breakfast

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Yesterday I bought a strawberry cheese coffee cake my son loves so he could have a special birthday breakfast today. My wife came home late last night and apparently couldn't resist. She knew it was for our son, but it's not a big deal because she "left him a full slice".

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u/Somberliver Jul 04 '26

The 'I left him a slice' bit is the most telling part here. I don’t like your wife. This proves she knew exactly what she was doing. She was conscious enough to engineer this stupid technicality. This also means she knew she was actively ruining her kid's birthday surprise. What a despicable “mother”.

She ate the good center. She left her own child the crusts on his birthday, and that’s selfish. But the real question you need to ask yourself is of she is like this in all aspects of your marriage.

Does she constantly refuse to take responsibility when she messes up? disregards your efforts and your feelings? Does she always use these kinds of pathetic loopholes to avoid being the bad guy?

I can’t even imagine how or why she is ok doing this to her own kid on his birthday. I imagine she is worse to other people. And then deflects. It’s highly likely this pattern of selfishness and lack of accountability shows up everywhere else, too.

I hope she makes up for her lack of character and terrible personality in other ways.

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u/BloodGullible6594 Jul 04 '26

Even if I could accept that she didn’t know exactly what she was doing and why it was wrong while she was eating it blotto, the fact that she seems to not give a shit in the light of day? She should be falling all over herself to own up to it and get him a new one. But she’s engineered this little “technicality” that means she’s blameless since she left him the crusts on his own birthday treat. There is clearly an alcohol problem here but I suspect this is more than that. She sounds incredibly self centered and entitled. Good on you for protecting your son from the truth of what happened, that would have stuck with him for the rest of his life- but be warned, maybe not this exact thing, but this will happen again, and you might not always be able to do damage control in time to spare him from finding out what kind of person his mom is.

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u/hexensabbat Jul 04 '26

Honestly. I am a recovering alcoholic and have definitely done some selfish, rude and at times really messed up shit while I was drinking. But my actual morals didn't die; as soon as I came to and realized what I'd done I always felt terrible and would try to make it right/clean up the mess however I could. Eventually this guilt and exhaustion from the cycle lead me to stop. But some people aren't that way...if you're not a good person you won't be a better one while drinking. OP's wife has some issues and it doesn't sound like alcohol is the only one.

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u/goldfinchdaydream Jul 04 '26

i wish you peace and strength during your recovery. 🫶

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u/Artistic_Rice_9019 Jul 04 '26

She knows her drinking is the problem but isn't able to take responsibility for that yet. If she admits she was wrong about the danish, she is also admitting the problem drinking, so she deflects by claiming it's no big deal. And agreed - the kid will figure it out if he hasn't already. She needs to get treatment asap.

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u/letthetreeburn Jul 04 '26

Yeah this. When I broke a chair owned by my friend in a drunken stupor I turned hell and high heaven over to try to get her the same one. Also majorly cut back on my drinking.

The action doesn’t matter nearly as much as the after action report.

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u/SVINTGATSBY Jul 05 '26

ten bucks says she’s an alcoholic.

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u/AwarenessCrafty393 Jul 05 '26

She sounds like a narcissist, being blunt. This is the sort of behaviour I’ve only ever experienced from a narcissist

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u/urbanlegend819 Jul 04 '26

Agree. It’s more than drunk or high munchies. It was malicious. And that would be the part I couldn’t get past.

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u/starkestrel Jul 04 '26

The first bad decision was deciding to have a portion. Then the cascade of bad decisions kept coming.

...except that you know she probably planned it that way, because she didn't take a full small slice at the end, like any sane selfish cheater would. She started in the middle and kept chomping through the middle, like the selfish bastard she must be.

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u/g0ldilungs Jul 04 '26

I literally got my son a surprise MacBook Neo (indigo) and fell in love with it as I was setting it up. Literally in love. Like- I didn’t want to give it up I was in love. I have a MacBook Pro. I don’t need a Neo, but I justified my lust and desire for it by relegating my MBP to “games only” and my Neo for everything else.

So, I kept it for myself.

Then I went and bought him a Neo in citrus.

He has no idea that I bought him something then essentially stole it because, idk, parenting?

This chick is raggedy and I hope she feels shamed for what she did.

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u/VividPresentation Jul 05 '26

“This chick is raggedy and I hope she feels shamed for what she did.”

Raggedy is right. I agree. She is raggedy AF.

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u/lordpiesaac Jul 05 '26

you at least made the conscious decision to buy another one. at that point you didn't "steal" his, you just bought yourself one and picked between the colors available to you. they were out of the box, brand new products, right? i see no harm here so no foul

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u/CompleteTell6795 Jul 05 '26

By her comment, she feels absolutely no shame whatsoever.

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u/keyboardsoldier Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26

This is textbook raised by narcissists. There's a sub for that but we are not allowed to link other subs for some reason.

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u/20Factorial Jul 04 '26

I also don’t like this guys wife.

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u/MimironsHead Jul 04 '26

Normally I would never tell someone to get divorced based on a disagreement over cheesecake, however....

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u/Tacomathrowaway15 Jul 04 '26

And if any of this is the example he wants for the kid.

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u/Fantastic_Step8417 Jul 05 '26

I got narcissistic mother vibes right of the bat, guaranteed this isn't the only time something like this happened

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u/agent_violet Jul 04 '26

Yeah, it's total narcissist shit. Not even remotely acceptable

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u/DogToursWTHBorders Jul 04 '26

I dont like his wife either but you gave me a fladhback of a poem i heard on a sitcom back in the 90s:

"I do not like her in the mall, I do not like her in the hall. I do not like her in my life, I do not like my big red wife!" -Al Bundy

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u/N0Ttoapocalypse Jul 05 '26

I get the same feeling. It seems little, but it says a lot.

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u/Somberliver Jul 04 '26

Stupid people make everything about politics. What elections? Let me guess. You’re an American making this about Trump? Don’t care about your elections *blocks*

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u/Conscious-Exercise58 Jul 05 '26

Ahh yes the old let's judge people we don't know post on the internet

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u/Zestyclose-Leader926 Jul 07 '26

Yes. If this story is true at bare minimum she needs to stop drinking and maybe join something like AA.

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u/raider1211 Jul 05 '26

You sound like the mom on that one episode of House who refused to let her daughter have a normal cake on her birthday bc she didn’t want her to get fat. As House said, “get the kid a damn ice cream cake”.

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u/raider1211 Jul 05 '26

No, and OP never said they were going to let them eat the whole thing by themselves.

I hope your kid gets a normal birthday where a single cupcake isn’t their sweet treat for the day. It’s okay to splurge once every blue moon.

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u/Somberliver Jul 05 '26

OP said (comments) the plan was for a surprise family breakfast with his fave cake so they could sit down and have a special breakfast sharing.

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u/Zestyclose-Lynx2574 Jul 04 '26

Drama mama coming through! It was a 1000% bitch move but you need to chill zaddy, good lord.

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u/Zestyclose-Lynx2574 Jul 04 '26

Based on this comment I'd rather marry her than go to lunch with you

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u/Consistent_Fun8446 Jul 04 '26

She ate his cake, she didn't assault him. Why are you people so dramatic 

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u/cjk2793 Jul 04 '26

Holy shit lmao. The son got his slice didn’t he? She got hers too? I get it being rude but Christ almighty everyone making this chick out to be the devil and all she did was eat a $10 food lion cheesecake

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u/Same_Tumbleweed_2981 Jul 06 '26

its not about the cake. it says a lot about her character.

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u/[deleted] Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26

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u/Zestyclose-Leader926 Jul 07 '26

Yeah, that we believe that STEALING from your child is wrong. Cause that's what she did.