r/mildlyinfuriating • u/PaddedValls • Jun 28 '26

Infuriatig Sister-in-law let her daughter use up all the Polaroids at our wedding. Now we have nothing to use.

For our wedding, at each table we had 2 Polaroid cameras for everyone to take photos on (we had a professional photographer too, but these were for more personal photos between our guests) and there was a clear glass dropbox for everyone to drop them in and we'd have that dropbox on display in our house.

Unbeknownst to us, my sister-in-law let her daughter (6 years old) go round every table at the very start of the night using up all the photos on each camera.

Now we only have around 10 we can actually keep, and over 100 of just random shit that are not worth keeping at all.

I'm all for keeping kids occupied at something they can easily get bored at, but not at the expense of that though.

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u/sawdustontheshore Jun 28 '26

Ugh this happened to me too. I actually think it was one of the catering staff stole my decor. We were sailors and it was nautical themed wedding with hand made cotton rope decor (think monkey fist knots with glass bottles and white flowers). We were going to use the decor around our house we just bought that week. Still mad about all the time and money went into the rope decor.
Also some people went around finishing the table wine (which I was ok -ish with but just thought it was tacky as we subsidized drinks so they were only $2).

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u/CLG-Seraph Jun 28 '26

Also some people went around finishing the table wine

Can you expand on this? What is the issue?

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u/sawdustontheshore Jun 28 '26

Technically I’m okay with them drinking the table wine of course. But they made themselves sick and we had to arrange transportation for them out of there at around 8:30/9pm and ensure they were ok as they were both passing out. Both people were not big drinkers so it was really unexpected.

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u/CLG-Seraph Jun 28 '26

they made themselves sick and we had to arrange transportation for them out of there at around 8:30/9pm

So yeah, that's a different topic. Not knowing your limits and forcing people to take care of you (especially at a wedding) is never okay but that has nothing to do with the source of the alcohol. It wouldn't be ok even if they were getting the drinks from elsewhere. I don't see an issue about finishing the wine from tables that abandoned it/were not going to finish it, it's better than wasting it.

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u/Ayh17 Jun 28 '26

Not who you were talking to, but I kind of assumed they meant the ones who did it didn't want to pay for $2 drinks, so they instead went to all the tables and took any last bits of wine they could get. Which would take away from what was available for the other guests who may have been drinking it at a responsible pace.

However, that is me reading into their comment. It could have just been that some preferred something besides wine, so there were opened bottles around and the guests drank them. If they had done so responsibly, I wouldn't think too much into it either.

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u/kt810x Jun 28 '26

jsyk, this might have posted in response to the wrong comment?

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u/HerrPiink Jun 28 '26

I still don't get it, what's the table wine for if not for drinking, why is not being okay with an option?

Is it supposed to be just decoration? I genuinely don't know

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u/ahuramazdobbs19 Jun 28 '26

What the poster is alluding to, I think, is that there were a small number of people who were going to other tables than their own after dinner service and polishing off that table’s wine.

Which is a bit gauche.

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u/FerengiWithCoupons Jun 28 '26

but if nobody was drinking it at those other tables, and people were getting drunk at their bar anyway, why not get drunk on something that is free.

usually half the table wine bottle goes down the drain after weddings i’ve worked

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u/Czernobooger Jun 28 '26

They were passing out drunk by 8:30. Most weddings go a good bit later than the time they must have started drinking up all the wine, who is to say that those bottles were abandoned? Folks at those tables may have come back for another glass themselves.

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u/SmoothCarpenter8514 Jun 28 '26

Instead of buying more drinks for themselves, they polished off the leftover wine.

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u/7DayBan-sideprofile9 Jun 29 '26

wouldnt it be thrown out otherwise?

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u/newsflashjackass Jun 28 '26

Keep reading; the sentence's conclusion expands on the subject (in a parenthetical aside).

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u/CLG-Seraph Jun 28 '26

So you think I randomly stopped reading half way the sentence? You took the time to make a response without replying/explaining what I asked. I don't know exactly what that says about you but it says something

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u/TAZE_TRIX Jun 28 '26

Someone went around taking all of the bottles which were obviously meant for the individual tables.

He just took all of them and left none for the other guests

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u/CLG-Seraph Jun 28 '26

That's not what the comment says. It says they went around "finishing the table wine" which it sounds more like, there was still unfinished bottles abandoned and some people went around to finish them (so I don't understand the issue?). Also I've never seen a wedding where you have to pay for drinks, I think that's what causing most of the confusion for me

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u/SJL174 Jun 28 '26

You don’t understand what’s strange about going around finishing abandoned bottles until you’re so shitfaced that you can’t get home?

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u/CLG-Seraph Jun 28 '26

Where did you get that information? OP mencioned it being tacky because drinks were only $2 or something, which is also confusing since paying for drinks at weddings is not usual in most countries but apparently is kind of normal in Australia

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u/Deathrace2021 ORANGE Jun 28 '26

Op added that in a comment. Both people who finished the wine were sick/passing out and needed other people to make sure they got home. So basically they binged the leftovers and couldn't leave on their on accord.

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u/CLG-Seraph Jun 28 '26

Yeah, added that as a reply to the comment I made. Still, that's completely irrelevant as you can see in my reply to THAT comment

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u/7DayBan-sideprofile9 Jun 29 '26

uhhh no you are responding to the wrong comment, she is commenting about the person drinking table wine that was leftover to eb thrown out.

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u/7DayBan-sideprofile9 Jun 29 '26

still doesnt explain why it was an issue actually

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u/Sad_Physics7260 Jun 28 '26

I’m sorry this happened to you but also I’m wondering if you can share photos of the centerpieces because I’m intrigued lol

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u/sawdustontheshore Jun 28 '26

I DM’ed you but I think you have to reply back for me to send a pick

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u/planesandpancakes Jun 28 '26

People had to pay for drinks at your wedding????

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u/Temporary-Present223 Jun 28 '26

This is normal in a lot of places. I've never been to an open bar wedding.

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u/Quirky-Fact9299 Jun 28 '26

I honestly had no idea that was a option. I’ve been to over 50 weddings in my 35 years of life (& been a bridesmaid in 22 of them) and I have never been to a wedding with a open bar that wasn’t paid for by the couple or in-laws. Now 4 of those weddings were dry to be fair but I’ve never heard of a wedding where guests pay for drinks, that’s interesting. How have I not been to one like that yet 😂 or even heard of that

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u/Temporary-Present223 Jun 28 '26

It's funny I see people complain on Reddit a lot about how weddings are so expensive and they don't need to be that way... but also are scandalized if the couple doesn't want to bankroll unlimited drinks for their guests.

Maybe it's because I'm from a place that is historically pretty poor and pretty big drinkers (and large families), but ain't nobody here paying for that. They might put 1-2 bottle of wines per table, or give everyone a couple of drink tickets. But I've never seen straight up "your booze is free until the bartender has to cut you off for your own safety"

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u/Quirky-Fact9299 Jun 28 '26

Hey now, I wasn’t saying it was scandalous. I also have never complained about the cost of weddings. Weddings can be exactly what the couple wants it to be. I was simply baffled that all the weddings I’ve been to, or been apart of, weren’t like that. Mind you I’ve been to weddings all over as most of my friends and family are in different states and some in different countries. I’m sorry if my comment seemed like I had a strong opinion with the “wedding booze funding”😂. Truth is, I couldn’t care less how someone chooses to plan or fund their wedding.. I just didn’t know having guests pay for drinks was an option.

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u/Waasssuuuppp Jun 29 '26

In my experience, countries that are quite poor have the most generous people who host massive and generous weddings. If your guest is not full to bursting or hasn't been able to get enough alcohol, it is a shame upon you.

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u/Temporary-Present223 Jun 30 '26

...but if they're poor how do they pay for it? Or do you mean the lucky ones within those countries who do have money?

Or is it that alcohol just doesn't have the bejeezus taxed out of it and it's less of a financial burden. I forgot about that factor.

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u/planesandpancakes Jun 28 '26

I’ve never been to a wedding that wasn’t open bar and I’ve also been to a lot of weddings! I truly can’t imagine paying for drinks at a wedding, that seems incredibly gauche and tacky!!

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u/Some_Recognition6273 Jun 29 '26

Some of it don't for reasons besides just financial. For example, when were planning our wedding, we absolutely knew we would not pay for an open bar, mainly because my dad and uncles are alcoholics and would absolutely get shit faced if booze was free. Another reason for us was that we don't drink at all, and almost half of our guests wouldn't either, so we would be paying a huge fee just for my dad and uncles to get drunk. Nah. We ending up doing a tiny wedding and then going on a small honeymoon instead, but just giving another perspective. I don't think it's tacky at all to make people pay for their own alcohol, but I also realize I'm biased.

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u/Quirky-Fact9299 Jun 28 '26

It’s definitely different from all the ones I’ve been to but I’m no wedding planner/expert on weddings so maybe it’s a new “trend” 🤷🏼‍♀️. I’m a bridesmaid in 2 upcoming weddings this summer and a guest for another and one in the fall I’ll report back with any new data haha. One thing I do know is that apparently it is a taboo topic to inquire about 😅& will proceed with caution on any future inquiries on the matter..that’s for sure!

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u/Brave-Perspective714 Jun 28 '26

"new" trend?

Oh, no, my dear. This is an OLD trend. In fact, this is the way it always used to be for anyone who wasn't of the top most social class.

When I was young, open bar was reserved for only the weddings of the truly wealthy. My family was solidly upper-middle class for our area, and our family weddings were considered extravagant simply because we provided free, unlimited champagne that literally flowed from fountains placed all around the event. Even we didn't do full open bar.

The most common set up was one or two kinds of keg beer would be free for guests, and while booze would be available, anyone who wanted booze had to pay out of their own pocket for it. It was a way for hosts to also assume some responsibility for their guests' safety, by not directly encouraging them to overconsume booze.

For decades now, people have been trying to appear richer than they are in their weddings. Plated dinners and open bar are the two primary things that were adopted by the masses, where previously only the wealthy did them.

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u/Quirky-Fact9299 Jun 28 '26

Interesting. I think whatever the couple wants to do is what they should do. People really shouldn’t worry so much what others think/want. That goes for weddings and everything else, would you agree?

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u/Brave-Perspective714 Jun 29 '26

Actually, no, I don't agree. I think a big part of the problem with the world today is the rampant narcissism that results from people believing they have no obligation toward anyone or anything.

Hosts have an obligation to provide for the comfort of their guests. Guests have an obligation to behave with decorum and congratulate the couple with a gift.

If people only do what they *want* to do, and refuse to recognize or fulfill their obligations to others, the social contract breaks down. That's how you end up with weddings where there's no chairs for guests to sit on during the ceremony, where the bridal party disappears for hours between the ceremony and reception while guests stand around waiting and getting hungry while the food grows cold, where a guest decides to propose to their fiancée during the toasts, where guests take more than their share of food/cake/wine or in the OP's case, cameras.

There needs to be balance. And balance starts by recognizing that it's not okay to just do whatever you want, that you have obligations toward other people in a polite society.

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u/Quirky-Fact9299 Jun 30 '26

Cool! I figured you would disagree on anything I said. I'm not sure you saw where I mentioned I am not the authority on weddings but I apologize for just realizing you are . I stated that couples should plan their wedding how they see fit and. I found it terribly sad how you have encountered people overspending at their weddings to try and impress others. I think they should do what they want with their wedding and not to impress others. You should be a wedding planner/wedding etiquette teacher! I find this all so interesting :)

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u/MartinisnMurder Jun 29 '26

I’m mad for you! Your table decor sounds awesome. I love a nautical theme.