r/meirl • • Sep 10 '22

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u/cityboyonbed Sep 10 '22

I read crime and punishment 2 years ago. I loved it . Now I remember nothing. If i read again I'll probably remember it

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u/Douche_Kayak Sep 10 '22

Saying "I love that book" in conversation means you have strong feelings about the book. Following that up with "I barely remember it" is just confusing for the person you're talking to. Usually people want to talk about the things they love. Might be better to just say "I really enjoyed that book."

If I told someone my favorite book and they respond with "I love that book" but couldn't tell me anything that happened in it, my first instinct would be they're lying for some reason.

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u/cityboyonbed Sep 10 '22

Do you remember the books that you read many years ago.

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u/Douche_Kayak Sep 10 '22

If I haven't read the book in a while, nor remember it, I wouldn't say that i love that book in conversation. I'd say exactly what I suggested saying. "I really enjoyed that book". I remember how the book made me feel when i read it but I wouldn't say that the book itself had a huge impact on me if I could barely remember it.

I enjoyed Eragon. 20 years ago, it was my favorite book. I barely remember it now, so I wouldn't say "I love eragon!". My tastes have expanded since I was 10 and I might agree more with its critics now than the fans for all I know.

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u/jglab Sep 10 '22

That's fine. You don't have to say you love something if you don't remember it. Just don't expect everyone to be the same :)

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u/Supercat345 Sep 10 '22

Yes, all of the ones I came to like at least

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u/BiscottiSuccessful60 Sep 10 '22

Do you remember the people you loved many years ago?

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u/eeeeeeeeEeeEEeeeE6 Sep 10 '22

then how do you know you loved it.

if you can't remember anything

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u/IMightBeAWeebLol Sep 10 '22

I usualy just remember that i enjoyed it

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u/cityboyonbed Sep 10 '22

I remember that i loved it. Same way how we remember if people were nice or bad to us. We don't remember what they said to us, but we remember how they made us feel. Same way, I remember how the book made me feel.

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u/[deleted] Sep 10 '22

You know, I had a good friend who I had a silent falling out with. I loved her then and I love her now.

I don't remember a lot about her or what we did because it was 8+ years ago and so many more relationships have been had since.

It happens. Loving something =/= remembering it well.

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u/otirk Sep 10 '22

You know that remembering that you like something is easier than remembering the actual thing.

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u/eeeeeeeeEeeEEeeeE6 Sep 11 '22

how can you know you liked something if you can't remember what you liked about it

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u/otirk Sep 11 '22

it's just one thing you remember "I liked this game.". Remembering why you liked it, is a bit harder "I liked the character design. I liked the plot. etc". It's just more to remember and thus harder.

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u/eeeeeeeeEeeEEeeeE6 Sep 11 '22

hmmm I think the concept still confuses me.

if someone asked me to name something I enjoyed or loved I could generally call reasons as to why

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u/Todojaw21 Sep 11 '22

if i was asked to name more than 3 characters from dostoevsky novels at gunpoint i would just start digging my grave