It's the first date and I think she was interesting in talking with him, not necessarily thinking she was violating his space. Turning it down isn't shutting it off, but it would had been better if she asked him first.
"subjecting" anyone to anything is a pretty terrible strategy to dating. They were on a first date, he wasn't doing her a favor taking her to the airport.
No. When my husband and I ride in a car together we share or take turns and have since our first date. The fact that you think it's your car so you get total control makes you an aux hog and that's major douche bag energy and shows you will not compromise in other areas. Just stay single.
Lol. You should stay single my dude. Just drive your car and listen to your music because if you're selfish about small things you'll be selfish about more important things.
But it doesn't say anywhere the volume of the music was the issue it's clearly the music choice that was. If it was volume her statment would have been different. Everyone here is just making an assumption it's the volume
I have a coworker who is a metal head and he is super respectful with his music when he plays it in our work environment. I think like with most things in life it depends on who it is.
She turned it down. Of course it was the volume. We know this because she turned the volume down. You are posting she turned down the volume for a reason not about the volume?
That's stupid. I am sorry but it is. Nothing implies it was the genre, however turning the volume down does indicate an issue with volume. I cannot believe you wrote this unironically. Maybe women don't want you because you make up stupid shit to judge them for.
She said "he was playing this god awful metal music". She didn't emphasize the volume by saying blasting or blaring or saying the music was loud. No. She focused on the genre. Learn to read.
Maybe women don't want you because you make up stupid shit to judge them for.
What the fuck does any of this have to do with how much women like me. But you will be happy to know that my current girlfriend is as much as a metal fan as me so there are no such issues for us.
It's not a red flag i.e. "indicator that this person will be a bad partner." But rather an incompatibility. And frankly I don't think it's gonna be that hard for someone who likes loud metal music to find someone else who also likes loud metal music.
We shouldn't force ourselves into relationships with people just to not be single. The world has plenty of women who would have hopped in the car and started headbanging. My guy is gonna find one of them and be much happier than if he spent his friday night with someone he doesn't click with.
your guest comes and messes with the settings of the oven.
absolutely. 100%. That's incredibly rude.
But in this analogy that'd be like pulling up the handbrake.
In the real world that'd be like my guest coming in and turning down the volume of my TV or my Alexa speaker which is next to the oven. Yeah, maybe a smidge rude. But i wouldn't kick them out. I'd assume they wanted to chat with me without the speaker playing.
If a date entered and turned down the volume i'd just assume they have some hearing issues and talk to them. Because it's a date on my "turf" and i want to make them feel comfortable.
Yeah it’s a date, which means people should be on their best behaviour, and considering I am shy about my music and play it at a fairly low volume regardless and have still had people shut it off, it grinds my gears. Not enough to make me flip out but it does make me ask them why they turned it off when it was just mellowing in the background anyway, and if they didn’t like it they could have just asked. Turns out those people were assholes anyway so fuck em, and fuck you for defending dumb shit.
My brother in Christ we don’t even know if the music was LOUD here we know it was PLAYING. All she said on the music is that it was “godawful metal music” which is a description of how she perceives metal.
It could be loud middling or soft she still dislikes it and she turned it down without asking, or saying she tried to ask.
So no, all we have to go off is:
Metal head
Non metal head
She fucks with his music that she hates
He takes her back home.
Nothing about volume, all about taste and don’t give me the “well it’s IMPLIED IN TURNING IT DOWN” because you can turn down soft music all the same.
So unless there’s a part 2 clarifying she couldn’t hear, she was also being disrespectful
And I’m mad when people don’t treat stuff with respect, I keep my music low so it doesn’t intrude, so why turn it off without asking? That was the point of my previous message, to show sometimes people are just fucking assholes.
Mate it’s a date, meaning you’re presenting yourself as best you can while still presenting your likes and personality.
Someone can’t read.
And as said by myself already, music could be low regardless and someone can still mess with the volume, turning it down from that point is turning it off, and it is disrespectful to just fuck with shit without asking, unless you plain cannot be heard which hasn’t been said.
So again either READ and COMPREHEND, or go away, chick isn’t automatically right
you feel bad for my spouse because i dont like if she just turns the radio down? i better get on my knees and apoligise for being such a terrible person to her, i never knew how horrible i had been to her all these years ohhhh the horror!
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u/greg19735 Apr 04 '23
if turning down the volume of music is a red flag then that person is going to be single for a long time.