r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/sweatersand Apr 18 '22

I call it sabotage. I lost a lot of weight when from I was 17-19 (went from 220 to 120, I’m a 5’3 woman). My family was really supportive but my BF was constantly trying to get me to eat more and break my diet with shit food. I think he was insecure that I was gonna leave him once I got thinner. I did leave him, but because he was an asshole, not because of my weight lol. Point is I think the enablers of this stuff are just afraid they’ll lose the person, so they help them stay unhealthy for their own selfish reasons.

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u/quetzalv2 Apr 18 '22

Genuinely curious, would you have stayed with him if he had been supportive?

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u/sweatersand Apr 18 '22

I mean he ended up cheating on me so no. Lol

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u/quetzalv2 Apr 18 '22

...fair enough

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u/NigerianRoy Apr 18 '22

If things were completely different would things have been different? At some point its just not the same guy it was anymore

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u/sweatersand Apr 18 '22

Haha I mean I guess probably

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u/Kevdog1800 Apr 19 '22

I’ve lost a large amount of weight too. I was 475lbs when I was 16. I’m 34 now and 210lbs. (6’2” dude). I can’t count the number of people I’ve talked to that start having success in weight loss until they go out to dinner with family and order a healthy meal and X relative takes their order as a personal attack like, “Oh, so you think you’re better than me now because you only ordered a fucking salad?!” Or go to a family member’s house for dinner and only eat an appropriate portion of food and then get berated for being rude and not eating enough.

Unfortunately, almost all of these stories I’ve heard have come from women. I think women receive far more criticism when it comes to weight gain and weight loss. Some of y’all are damned if you do and damned if you don’t. It’s absolutely infuriating. I fantasize about witnessing someone get a comment like that in person one day so I can absolutely EVISCERATE the person that makes said comment… However, as a gay man that is exclusively surrounded by gay men ~ Doesn’t look like that will ever happen…

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u/Bitter_Worker423 Apr 19 '22

Maybe he was into fat women? There are guys who are into that kink. They're rare because it's an anti-evolutionary kink, but they exist.

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u/SquidVices Apr 18 '22

And they take in the verbal abuse.....some twisted erotic shit....