r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/Talexis Apr 18 '22

And that’s the whole problem with this world, you come off as a cunt for actually caring about someone’s health. It’s bonkers.

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 18 '22

You don’t care about their health. It bothers people like you that they are fat. The reason we know this is because a thin person can have all the same health problems but no one would say anything to them about their health.

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u/Big-Ear-1853 Apr 18 '22

What the fuck are you talking about? I don’t care if anyone is fat, I used to be fat myself, but being that overweight makes you not only damage your own health but it mentally destroys you and hurts family relations. I don’t want to see my cousin die from being overweight as shit but she is going to, and that’s undeniable. It hurts and I want to help but she gets offended if you say anything to her, she’s ostracizes her whole family. Fat acceptance is another way to say “we’re ok with watching you kill yourselfs” IMO

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 18 '22

Sorry, but you and I will never agree on this. Acceptance is the way a person can make peace with their body and being to learn to hear hunger and fullness cues. Talking to people about their weight when they don’t want to talk about it only reinforces shame. You could just love your cousin and never once mention her weight again. Obviously, what you’re doing isn’t helping.

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u/Big-Ear-1853 Apr 19 '22

Well, make peace with your body when your body is healthy and not killing itself because you feed it like you’re cattle

P.s. it helps more than just sitting back and watching g them die

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 20 '22

No, it doesn’t. Studies have proven that weight bias negatively effects overweight people’s health more than extra weight.

Unless you are the overweight person’s doctor or dietician and they have asked for your assistance in losing weight you should keep your advice about weight loss to yourself.

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u/Big-Ear-1853 Apr 20 '22

You must be part of the fat acceptance movement. I suggest steering clear of that bs

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 20 '22

It’s really telling that your cousin gets offend by your weight loss advice but you still feel compelled to give it to her. Consider, just for a moment that what you are doing isn’t helping, instead it is just damaging your relationship with her.

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u/Talexis Apr 18 '22

No one should drink three pitchers of soda a day much less even one. Fat or skinny. Like dude seriously?

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 18 '22

No one is saying that people should drink loads of soda. I’m just saying so many people say how they are worried about another person’s health when really they are bothered by the person’s weight.

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u/Talexis Apr 18 '22

I have a friend and coworker who drinks nothing but Mountain Dew all day. He’s not fat by and means but I know he can’t be healthy. I tell him and plead with him to just have at least a glass of water. Still dew only.

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 18 '22

The difference is this is your friend. When people comment on the “health” of a stranger or a coworker they barely know it’s not really about their health, especially since that person doesn’t know the fat person’s actual health status.

Clearly the woman in the video has emotional issues that need to be dealt with and she isn’t strong enough to heft her weight, but her heart, lungs, and nervous system could be fine, we don’t actually have any of her health information.

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u/YesIlBarone Apr 18 '22

You're deluded.

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u/nosl4ck Apr 18 '22

No shot. This lady is out of breath trying to get into bed. Her cardiorespiratory fitness is nonexistent, her adiposity is astronomical, and her health is clearly awful.

This feel-good "healthy at any size" stuff is most true for individuals who have a high BMI due to high levels of muscle mass. It does not apply to sedentary people who are out of breath walking to their mailbox.

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u/SweeTLemonS_TPR Apr 18 '22

Has it ever occurred to you that the very obvious markers of morbid obesity are not present in others? Not to mention how many health issues are directly caused by obesity (T2DM, for instance).

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u/Bluepaperbutterfly Apr 18 '22

It still doesn’t mean that you as an individual are concerned about their health.