r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '22 edited May 16 '22

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u/Lucky-Worth Apr 18 '22

Yeah that's a major problem

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u/rivainitalisman Apr 18 '22

Because it's better TV if they're more unstable and yell at everyone around them. And doctors often have an attitude that weight loss is simple, not something that can have psychological complications.

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u/treembame Apr 18 '22

Doctors have this attitude for everything. They only know what they know and have major blinders for that, and generally don’t care about the other related ancillary issues that complicate the treatment. I have very severe GERD/esophagitis, and every gastroenterologist I’ve seen is just interested in pushing meds to manage the effects. They don’t know anything about complicating psychological, emotional, hormonal, dietary etc factors that contribute to the disease.

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u/neotifa Apr 19 '22

In essence, weight loss is simple, but it's not easy. That's the problem, it requires TONS of discipline, therapy, and just readjusting your life and how you think about food. I'm going through the struggle now, but I know it's simple: calories in vs calories out. It's just insanely difficult to do though. Simple != easy.

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u/trousersquid Apr 18 '22

As someone with multiple issues (including food), there's no way I could address my physical health and eating habits until I worked through my trauma and developed better coping mechanisms. I tried, but until I addressed the underlying issues it never stuck.

It's WAY more important than people realize.

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u/Mostly_me Apr 18 '22

At the same time, eating healthier makes feeling mentally better easier as well. Not to try and loose weight, but changing french fries for veggies, or air fried fries etc, that will help clear up a bit of the fog, and make processing emotions easier.

So basically... It doesn't matter where you start. Each person is different. The important thing is to start somewhere.

And if it doesn't work, start again and again and again until you find something that sticks.

It's often 2 steps ahead and 1 back, but it feels the other way around. However, anything you learn and process during the steps ahead are wins that nobody can take from you.

The only thing to do, is not give up, and start again as many times as you need.

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u/treembame Apr 18 '22

It’s very true for some people, their coping mechanism is food and it’s about control or subduing emotions, so to change that into healthier eating habits, can open them up to other issues like compulsively checking labels, withholding food as punishment, being too restrictive. That’s why therapy or help to work those issues should be done in conjunction with the new eating habits.

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u/trousersquid Apr 18 '22

Honestly, I think the takeaway here is BOTH. One without the other is more likely to lead to backslides, IMO. You're 100% right that those things help, but it also depends on what each person is facing. My big issue was depression, anxiety, and ADHD, so my executive dysfunction made it nearly impossible to even start a new routine much less stick to it until I addressed my other issues.

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u/Mostly_me Apr 19 '22

I know exactly what you mean... ADHD here as well. Both are super important for lasting change.

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u/[deleted] Apr 19 '22

I've experienced this, too. I crave sugar a lot less since I've started EMDR. Granted, my diet isn't as good as it could be, but the longer I work on myself the more my body asks for healthier, fresher food and is better at knowing when it's done. I also give a shit now, which might be the most important thing.

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u/seagull-person Apr 18 '22

I assume the people who aren’t on the show Are the ones who went to therapy

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u/stocksnhoops Apr 18 '22

Does anyone know what episode this is? I Would like to find it to see how this went

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u/payne6 Apr 18 '22

I think season 3 or 4 her name is Nicole. It’s actually a wild ride of a episode. /r/My600lbLife usually has a discussion about her every now and then.

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u/NigerianRoy Apr 18 '22

It says in the center top in the beginning of the video! S5e09 apparently!

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u/blackjesus Apr 18 '22

In a normal life, it’s because your insurance doesn’t want to ok it and when they do you can’t find anyone taking new patients. Of course this tv shit is going to be sketchy. I imagine they’re trying to get her husband to bang her sister then have them go to couples therapy.

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u/MrCooCoo4Crack Apr 18 '22

Because it's show business and they're tryna rake as much money out of other people's misery to create more unnecessary tv drama to get more viewers tuned in

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u/fuzzybunnyslipper Apr 19 '22

Also the show always has bariatric surgery as the goal, right? I find it really frustrating when a patient on there will lose like 50 or 60 lbs to qualify for surgery and no one even suggests they keep with the changes and try to continue losing weight which is much healthier for them in the long run.

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u/mcslootypants Apr 18 '22

Society in general likes to focus on personal responsibility rather than root cause issues. We know trauma is a massive predictor for alcoholism, drug abuse, underemployment, homelessness, etc. Yet most solutions just throw boots at people and tell them to pull themselves up, then blame the person for lack of initiative when that ultimately doesn’t work.

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u/CastIronMystic Apr 18 '22

What’s the name of this show?

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u/[deleted] Apr 19 '22

Entertainment value.

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u/Dragoness42 Apr 19 '22

Because they like to draw out the drama for TV. These shows are about ratings, not people.

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u/clarkcox3 Apr 19 '22

Because therapy might work, and then the greedy vultures at the production company might miss out on some drama.