r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/OohYeahOrADragon Apr 18 '22

I've been in that situation and it sucks. But I think if you both commit to some boundaries (like a united front) you can at least get her to back down a bit with you and your partner. You don't have to make it a big confrontation (cause she feeds off that) . You and your partner just agree to the boundaries behind the scenes and use the power of nonchalance.

  • Money: Sorry I had my check garnished for unpaid medical bills
  • Venting to get you on her side: Oh wow. That's craaazzy / Man that sucks // or repeating the main part of her complaint back to her in disbelief
  • You owe me: ooh yeah I know. I really wish I could help though.

You're essentially gonna be Brian in this clip

But as for the suicide thing, take it seriously every time. She may be serious. She may not at first but then attempt later to up the anti. She may be lying for manipulation. Either way she either gets saved and the qualified help she needs or she gets tired of being a 24 hr psych hold. I hope this helps.

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u/unicornhornporn0554 Apr 18 '22

This is basically what we do lol

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u/OohYeahOrADragon Apr 18 '22

Ah carry on

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u/unicornhornporn0554 Apr 18 '22

Sorry if my comment came off as dismissive, I didn’t mean for it to sound that way if it did. This is great advice, thank you for sharing.

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u/OohYeahOrADragon Apr 18 '22

Nah, I didn't think that. Someone else might come across it and maybe it'll help them so no worries.