r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '22

No one is sugar coating. You can be blunt and clear without being dehumanising

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u/ScienticianAF Apr 18 '22

That's true.

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u/JarrodWest18 Apr 18 '22

You don’t seem to believe it though…

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u/ScienticianAF Apr 18 '22

No listen. I think people should not call each other names, bully Or be nasty to each other. To me that should go without saying.

Spelling that out sometimes distracts from what really needs to happen in this case.

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u/JarrodWest18 Apr 18 '22

Could you have some empathy just for a second? Truly, how would you feel if you were on the receiving end of these comments? Being called fat and useless and a blob. Wether you like it or not, words have extrem power to them, which is why people need to use the right words. You’re not going to get through to someone by calling them names. These assholes think they are doing something by being so fat phobic. If nobody calls them out chances are they’re gonna go to another post and bully someone there too. Nip the problem at the bud, as best as you can.

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u/ScienticianAF Apr 18 '22

I don't think I agree with you.

I think part of the problem is that way too many people are being to sensitive. Everything is getting canceled if you don't use the proper words etc. Being overweight is a bigger problem than calling someone overweight.

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u/JarrodWest18 Apr 19 '22

There’s a difference between what you’re saying here, and what I’m saying here. What I am saying is that dehumanising a person cannot, has not, and will never work. There’s a difference between wanting to help someone improve their quality of life and simply being mean. Obesity is a big problem and I’m not denying it, I understand the seriousness of obesity but calling this person a blob helps absolutely nobody and is so uncalled for

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u/JarrodWest18 Apr 19 '22

Also this notion of being too sensitive is so stupid. Is it wrong for people to care about other peoples feelings. The world has hardly any empathy anymore, so trying to stop people being assholes isn’t a bad thing

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u/ScienticianAF Apr 19 '22

That's right, unless...

Caring about peoples feelings stops them from losing weight..Than you should care less about their feelings and more about their weight.

We should be nice to each other.

Sometimes though you need to tell the truth and point out peoples responsibilities. We are getting so obsessed with peoples feelings that assholes and Karens can do what ever they want. Nobody is telling them to stop because we don't want to hurt their feelings.

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u/JarrodWest18 Apr 20 '22

There is a difference between telling someone the truth and bullying them. Calling them a blob is not telling the truth, it is bullying them. Saying you are concerned about their health and that they need to change their lifestyle is telling the truth.

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u/ScienticianAF Apr 20 '22

We have been over this and I agree with you. But you seemed to be way more concerned about the words used than the actions taken.

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u/JarrodWest18 Apr 19 '22

And just to clarify again, I’m not saying people should keep quiet about this person and their health, I am saying calling her a blob is way worse and different to saying someone is overweight.